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If you are a parent, and probably you are because you are reading this, you have found yourself in so many situations when your children didn’t want to do something or when they wanted to quit their hobby for example. How did you react? Do you think that you do in the right way? If you are confused about such situations, and we know that you sometimes feel exhausted and frustrated in those moments, please continue reading this article. We want to help you to understand how do children feel about this whole situation!
If your child is very competitive and doesn’t know how to lose, you need to push him or her harder to continue whatever the child is doing. Let’s say that your kid is attending some football classes and he isn’t doing well. Then he becomes frustrated and wants to give up. Why does your child react like that? He wants to be the winner, everywhere! You need to teach your child that life is not perfect and to explain him or her how life is not so ideal and how there won’t be great circumstances all the time.
The same rule goes for anxiety. Your kid may be very anxious to try something new. You cannot keep your child away ”from this horrible world”. You just need to encourage your kid to step out from the comfort zone. Also, be there when she or he does it, and encourage your child even more.
What about quitting? When is it okay to let your child quit some activity? Let’s say that the child has put so much effort into some activity and really enjoyed it for a quite long period of time. As the child was growing up, such activity may not interest him or her anymore, and that is completely fine. Let your child quit in such a situation.
It may happen the opposite way too. You may force the child to play some musical instrument, but if he or she doesn’t like it and feels constantly miserable, then you should reassess your beliefs about that activity. Maybe it was your idea? Maybe the child really doesn’t enjoy it?
As I was talking about parents desires, I need to mention something similar to the previous situation I have explained. Many parents dream how their children will become some famous tennis players or dancers, but it cannot happen if your child is maybe the one that enjoys painting and has such a talent.
So, don’t force your child. Do it only when you see that it needs some encouragement and to overcome some little fears. If you follow our advice, you are literally investing in your child’s future! I forgot to say that you are an amazing parent who is reading such articles that can help you both to grow together!