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When you think about what dating and relationships used to look like, especially compared to today. you realize how much in our culture has changed. While there’s a lot of good change–such as splitting the check and a more equal share of the financial burden in the household, you may find yourself a little bit confused while trying to make a modern romance work. It doesn’t matter if you are single, married, or in a relationship, this expert advice will definitely help you!
Show appreciation. Be sure that you do or at least say something that shows an appreciation to your beloved– or even your crush. It is all about little gestures. Does your wife enjoy that a certain chocolate? Did she have a hard day at work? You got the point.
It doesn’t matter how long your relationship lasts. People tend to think about how they need to care only for long-term relationships. Not true. Good relationships are nurtured from the start. You may now think how you don’t want to get married, but you may change your mind. And even if you don’t wind up walking down the aisle, a well-established relationship is always going to outlast one that wasn’t taken seriously at first.
Don’t take anyone for granted. When a few months of a relationship pass, people tend to think about how their partner will be the same all the time and how normal it is to expect them to be 100% good to them 24/7. You get what you give, remember? That rule can be applied for both sides, of course. This one closely aligns with #1.
Learn to argue. Every relationship has its ups and downs. It is completely normal to have numerous arguments, but you definitely need to learn how to do that properly. In fact, it’s HEALTHY to argue. Your partner may not clean up the mess–ever. Instead of saying:”You NEVER clean the house, YOU ARE so messy!”, say:”I expected that you will clean up the mess because you told me that you would.” What’s the difference? In the first situation, you are talking about their whole personality, which is wrong. In the second one, you are talking about the situation you don’t like and about your personal feelings. You can implement this to everything, and trust me, this is the most important advice you can get!
Be with someone with similar values. You don’t have to always agree– he might hate The Matrix, while you love it. But when it comes down to it, you have to have the same values at your core. Are you both believers in God? Do you both deeply care t environmentalism? Do you both think it is important to be kind to people? These are just a few examples. Again, this isn’t about having the same likes and dislikes, rather than having the same thoughts and feelings about how the way the world works, and the direction you want to go in life.
Take care of your needs–and theirs. While you should take care of yourself first (they do say you can’t love someone until you lyourself right?), you should also take care of their needs. One way to do this is to learn one another’s Love Language. You may think you’re meeting his needs by bringing him a gift you think he would like, but if how he needs to be loved is by through physical touch, then he’ll feel neglected.
Work at communicating. It doesn’t matter if you’ve just met or you’ve been together 50-years, communication is the single most important part of a relationship. Keep trying to get better, to understand your partner, and work to make your thoughts clear. It can be scary, but isn’t being vulnerable what being in a relationship is about?