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First of all, I need to tell you that you are not alone. I have been there and I know exactly how you feel. It is a hard process, and barely anyone who hasn’t gone through it could understand your feelings. So, keep reading and realize that you are not alone!
We live in the 21st century, the world of technology and it seems like everything is about it. No one barely goes out anymore without posting it on Instagram or Facebook, for example. How do you feel while you are scrolling your feed and when you see so many mothers that take so many photos of their babies? Do you feel a pressure to be pregnant even more?
There may be also neighbors, relatives, friends, who don’t understand your situation and they will ask you from time to time are you pregnant. What can you do to ”run away” from such pressure? You need to turn to yourself, no matter how hard that sounds. You need to understand that you are not incomplete. You just have some problems, and everyone has some of theirs, but you are perfect the way you are right now!
Is Instagram giving you headaches? All those perfect families that are smiling and it seems like their life is all about having so many children, being healthy and having so much money. How do you feel? I can understand you. You fill like you don’t belong anywhere, you feel like you are ill, or even like you just live to work. But, all they post is a kind of a lie.
It may be even harder if your friends are in the middle thirties and they are telling you how your biological clock is shutting down. Don’t believe those words. Besides such technology people use for having fun, the 21st century also offers you to have a child more easily no matter which complications you may experience during your journey to become a parent.
Be honest with your partner. Talk to him or her about it. What bothers you? What are your deepest fears? If you are not ready to talk about such topics with your partner, maybe you have a friend who would understand. As I have said, it is very hard to be all alone (actually, to feel like that) once all of your friends have children and when everything they talk about is babies. The pressure is to strong, and please remember that I know how you feel.
If you don’t have anyone to talk to (and I hope that you do), go to some psychological treatment. Talk with your doctor honestly. This is not just physical stress, but also the mental one. I would agree that the mental problem here is even worse to deal with. Everyone is expecting the same thing from you. They are watching you every single day trying to figure out if you have gained a few pounds. If you did, they will ask you if you are finally pregnant. Oh, I know how exhausting that is.
So, what can you do to protect yourself? First of all, the social media is the biggest problem here. Unfollow all those mother and baby sites. Hide your friends that post so many cute pictures every day. No, it is not a bad thing to do that, because you need to think about yourself and your health right now. Always remember that you are not less worth if you cannot conceive, but you will, someday, don’t forget that. You will then be sad about all those days you have spent unhappy and worried. Believe in yourself and enjoy your life as it is now!