Are you earning more money than your spouse?
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We live in the 21st century and I think that the gender roles should definitely be behind us. Okay, to be honest, we all know how men cannot give birth. But yet, people experience many unpleasant situations which are always connected with money. Let’s say that you are a happily married person, and doing all that you can to afford as much as you can for your family. Suddenly, you earn more than your spouse, and in that situation, it affects your relationship. We created a list how such things can affect someone’s life and what to do about it to solve it.
1.Sex life. Is your sex life somehow different now when you earn more than your spouse? Maybe your husband is having some troubles with his ego. You know, men are raised in that way and learned that they need to earn for their family. It is their biology and of course, their education from the very early ages. What to do about it? Talk with your spouse openly. Appreciate his feelings.
2.Competition. It seems like people like to be competitive. Although, you are just one family now, and there is no one else there to prove them how you are better in some way. Be sure that you appreciate what your spouse does and never complain him about his work and earning he makes. Of course, tell how you do not want to be competitive in any way and say how you only want the best for your family (because that is exactly what you want).
3.The ambivalent situation. We will talk about women here a bit. They may be ambivalent if they earn more. They may start to analyze their partner and his capabilities. Remember that we are living in the 21st century, and not in some medieval times. Everybody is trying their best.
4.Oh, the purpose. Your husband may lose his sense of purpose if you are earning more and being able to do all that housework. Be sure that you give him some more obligations so he won’t feel useless. This a win-win situation, if I may admit.
5.The gatekeeper. We are talking about women here again. If you are trying to prove that you can do it all on your own, please stop. Working too much, taking care of everything, being a superwoman… We appreciate that, but let your spouse have some role in your life too.
7 thoughts on “Are you earning more money than your spouse?”
People should just feel happy that they’re even getting money in the first place together. It could be way worst.
Men just sometimes feel fragile when they see the woman around them do so much more than they are. They should learn to feel proud and just be happy for them instead of placing this competition.
Like the article said, gender role are behind us, it really shouldn’t matter who earns more.
It really shouldn’t matter. If it’s beneficial for both, why should I care if she earns more?
It’s the man’s job to make more money. Hand’s down.
Who cares if it’s benefiting the family? Working towards common goals and a healthy retirement together is fantastic!
I make more than my husband. He’s perfectly cool with it. I’ve been able to buy us a new home, we can afford nice family vacations, and my kids are able to participate in the hobbies they enjoy such as horseback riding. Anyone who is in a relationship and has a partner who is intimidated by the other’s earning potential probably needs to review their relationship.