Straight Forward Ways To Know If She’s Cheating

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#1 She pays more attention to her phone than you.

If you inevitably spend every dinner glaring at her as she pivots between various social networks and replies to every text message that springs up, don’t be too quick to write her behavior off as a sign of the times. Its possible that she’s on an online dating or hookup app like Tinder.

#2 She’s less interested in sex.

Every couple has sex routines. Maybe three times a week is your norm; maybe you get it in every night. But if your norm inexplicably changes, and you find you’re battling a new excuse every night, you may want to investigate what lies at the root of the issue. Is she really too tired (every damn night)? Has your sex life just gotten that boring? Or, is she simply disinterested in getting it from you…because she’s getting it elsewhere?

#3 She accumulating new clothes at higher rates than usual.

If your girl goes into makeover mode and tears through the mall like Sonic the Hedgehog on a mission, you should take notice. Most women have an affinity for retail and men know it and take advantage of it. If she’s buying a new wardrobe that may seem out of reach of her paycheck, you better check to make sure another man isn’t footing the bill!

#4 She starts pointing fingers in your direction.

If your previously secure girlfriend suddenly goes into paranoia mode, you should take notice. If she snaps at you over seemingly innocent actions (basically, anything on this list, but in small, completely commonplace increments), she might be trying to throw you off her scent. By focusing your attention to your perceived failings, you’ll be less apt to interrogate her about her actual foul play, which is just the way she’d like it.

But if you really want to know if she’s cheating… heres one way to know for sure. 

Background check sites like Persopo.com can give you all sorts of information about someone. To use Persopo.com all you need to do is type in a name and state and the system goes to work. Pulling together every possible piece of information on them from public records.

Persopo.com not only pulls from public records but many different social and dating websites around the internet. It can give you a full picture of someone’s online activity almost instantly.

“When I searched her name it came right up, she had accounts matching her name and email on Tinder, Bumble, Match.com and many others.” – Persopo.com User

More and more Americans are using online background check services like Persopo.com – They use the service to scope out friends, family, teachers, co-workers or anyone they feel like. Searching is easy all you have to do is type in a name and the state they live in. Instantly you can get access to a huge amount of data from criminal records, property records.

 

 

 


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360 thoughts on “Straight Forward Ways To Know If She’s Cheating

  • June 20, 2019 at 12:48 am
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    Women and men alike…all cheat, even if it’s only in thought. Even if all of the elements of a perfect union is there..something always goes wrong…or it was a friend that placed an idea in mind….or one of the overheard a conversation at a coffee shop and it place a question in mind…to make suspicion arise. I was almost married ..”twice”..both cases I was cheated on…and I was doing all that a man can or is supposed to do. Everything from breakfast in bed, slow love making to where she soaked the sheets and had multiples way before me..to helping to provide and raise her 2 sons..working to build a future..cleaned house..cooked all the meals…I would buy Rose’s just to show I was thinking of her and she wouldn’t even look up. I even have witnesses from my church who have seen all these thing I have done being an actual real life good faithful man. I’m sorry we all go through this no matter what! Please don’t give up hope…we nice ones are still out here. Be Blessed and Good Luck.

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    • June 23, 2019 at 1:14 pm
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      I have been married and divorced twice. Both husbands cheated on me so much. I thought I was being a very good wife, giving them everything I had. After the 2nd divorce (1st divorce when I was 32 and 2nd divorce when I was 40), I decided I would never get married again. I am 64 now and I am living a frugal but mostly stress free life.

      My sister says my “picker” (the one I use to “pick” a husband) is broken. So, I don’t trust myself to pick a husband.

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      • June 27, 2019 at 3:31 pm
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        You need to find a man that is with you or at WORK. At all times. If he’s at work video call him at different times. You will be able to tell if he is working or fooling around by the background and his manner of speech. Good luck and look for the clues.

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        • June 28, 2019 at 7:44 am
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          What a horrible wife that would treat a husband like that. Work or get home. He needs hobbies also. Just not bad ones.

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        • June 29, 2019 at 11:36 pm
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          We have hard times keeping track of ourself, not worth it always looking out for cheaters. When we find the right one who wants to be there simply because they like us for who we are, gives us goosebumps & keeps us going. And that also gives us HOPES and keeps love alive!

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    • June 26, 2019 at 1:40 am
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      Where is that Micheal Long from!!? I dream of a man like you. It’s hard to believe you did all that & a woman didn’t appreciate that! I was married to a jerk in the military & did everything that a wife should & could do, down to whatever he wanted in bed & he still cheated!! I find it hard to believe in unconditional love let alone soul mates, so I already expect the worse. No one is loyal anymore or trust worthy! Most people are out for self, therefore there will always be cheating.

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      • June 30, 2019 at 12:01 am
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        It’s funny there are people pike you me & michael out there looking for each other, and somehow just missed. But there’s a reason cheating is allowed. Does anyone really wants somebody there that doesn’t really wants to be. Nothing you can do will stop them, they will keep on moving til they find where they fit in. When the right one comes along, you can give them all the reasons to leave, they will find one to stayed!

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    • June 26, 2019 at 9:55 pm
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      Wow so it’s not a good idea to try to b the peffect man you know what my heart has been screaming at me to not do it only I haven’t been listening I’m sorry but I’m glad I read this good lock and God bless u

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    • December 17, 2019 at 1:29 pm
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      Hello Two years ago I was diagnosed with cancer and during this my so call lover stood by me until I got stronger.Then he disappeared ghost me ….I was so hurt and he never said why no matter how many times I asked…so with the lack of call,text etc ….and after so many times …I will try to find out why….I gave up….I came to the onclusion that he could careless ….five years dating what a fool I was to fall in Love…..

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    • December 18, 2019 at 2:19 am
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      And here I thought all the good men were gone!!

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    • June 26, 2019 at 6:50 am
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      No your Picker is not broken, they are. You did the best you could by giving them your all, and that’s what a real good wife does. It just means they both were not for you. Because they couldn’t see your worth. Don’t give up on Love ❤️. It’s not to late. Because your at peace with yourself, and Life, Real Love will find you. Live your best life. God Bless (God is Love)

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    • June 26, 2019 at 11:00 am
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      It’s all about perspective. Men and women both need to be honest about their perception of how things are viewed. You have to ask yourself how do you view your relationship? If I think I can be “cheated” on, that would imply my relationship is a “game”. Therefore what would one do in a game and not a relationship is my focus, and I would imagine it would be vice versa.

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    • June 8, 2019 at 1:09 am
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      Facts😭😭😭😭😭😭😭

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      • June 10, 2019 at 10:33 pm
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        Everyone doesn’t cheat. I have been cheated on. In retaliation I cheated back. Ever after I was disgusted with myself. But it was never something I would have even considered doing to anyone I claimed to love. Even had I believed the marriage would have survived I would not have cheated, but I knew it was over. And guess what? It wasn’t his cheating. It was the lies. I could have found a a way to forgive him because I honestly believe that people all make serious errors in judgement about many things. Cheating is one of them. But the cheating is not the essence of that person and it does not define them. He asked me to forgive and take him back. I did not. When I asked him point blank about his affair he looked me straight in the face and lied like a dog. If he could so easily decieve me and feel comfortable doing so then that meant that I could not trust him to love me. I could not trust him with my life. It was his lie

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        • June 27, 2019 at 6:42 am
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          Why would you actually expect him to tell you the truth about an affair. No one wants to tell the truth about cheating. Not man nor woman. It’s an act that is severely frowned upon. To say that you’d forgive him for cheating but end the relationship because he lied about it is simply stupid. If you honestly believe that people make mistakes and deserve forgiveness then why choose to forgive the cheating but not the lie. It makes no sense to nit pic mistakes. It’s either your going to forgive or not. Never expect honesty when it comes to cheating. It’s a fools errand. Anyone that would tell the truth is likey someone that dousn’t care that you know and likely has not respect for you. It’s super rare to find someone willing to tell the truth about cheating while also feeling regret for commiting the act.

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          • June 29, 2019 at 6:20 pm
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            I totally agree!!… This makes more sense to either move on or try to totally forgive. Period.

        • June 27, 2019 at 7:38 am
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          Wow what a story thats really crazy question did when you cheated did like it or did you know it was wrong and it was more of getting even

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        • June 27, 2019 at 11:29 am
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          I am.in the same place as well…but I have found the text , have caught him actually after the act and he finally admitted the truth but then he turns around and lies again. He lies about the colors of a shirt…if his mouth is open its a lie….but he has went a step farther and has allowed a spy camera in our lives to be able to watch him at ALL TIMES…it is killing me bc i love him…but my god what is wrong with me to not already have packed and not looked back….he has done some of the most awful things to me that NOONE would do their own enemy, but to their spouse … LOVE CANNOT be in my life with him ….he swears he loves me to death and doesn’t want me to leave , BUT these actions scream more than anything…it’s became emotional ABUSE and neglect and mental cruelty in so many levels…but yet I am still working on this marriage….wtf is wrong with me…. I have been reduced to no car, no job , no real friends bc they seem to be involved with his actions and no life …..who do you trust and why am I being so stupid….plain and simple…. just stupid….what is wrong with me?? I use to love myself an people,now I trust no one …he is a narcissist, but am I just plain STUPID.

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          • June 28, 2019 at 5:33 pm
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            Lii this describes my life so much. I am living in a nightmare with someone who was once my best friend as well asy husband of 24 years. He cheated fell in love and is still lying

          • June 30, 2019 at 10:36 am
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            Assess the action, not the words.

          • December 9, 2019 at 9:30 pm
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            Are you still in this situation? You have taken the words right out of my mouth

          • December 15, 2019 at 10:27 pm
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            You are NOT stupid!!! Stop it stop beating yourself up!! It’s very normal to feel like you do! It’s not easy just to leave!! It doesn’t work like that! Anyone who says that is Blowing smoke! Especially if u are married, you don’t just leave a marriage that easily! No one can tell you how to handle this situation because you are the only one who can do anything about it. Just know that what you do is on your own terms and there are no right or wrong answers sweetie! Because everyones situation is different and the outcome is not always going to be the same as the next person. So my advice is simply this, do what you know is going to make you feel happy in the end and what other people say or do should not affect your decisions because you are the only one who has to live with yourself. Not even your kids or parents have a say in how you decide to live your own life. Because in the end you only have yourself to depend on! I promise you that if you make a decision based on what other people say or want you to do is only going to be a disaster for you and you will be the one who has to pay for it and deal with it. So you do you and you keep yourself number one in your life. If you don’t then who else will?? Trust your own way and your own instincts and you cannot go wrong! When I look back at my life and my mistakes I realize that the mistakes I made due to other people’s influences was my biggest mistakes!! Mistakes I made solely on my own terms I can accept and handle so much better versus regretting that I chose to listen to other people and doing what they wanted me to do instead of doing what I wanted to do. I always came out worse when I went with other peoples decisions for my life. Every time I say I wish I would have just done what I wanted to do instead of listening to everyone else. Never doubt yourself! That’s what the enemy wants you to do! Trust your gut feeling! It’s usually always right!!

        • June 30, 2019 at 12:10 am
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          That’s why cheating is allowed. Let’s us know who really wants to be there and who don’t.

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      • June 17, 2019 at 1:10 am
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        Well when we feel theres something not quite right. Your instincts serve you well.so trust them. Even with all the signs still would not believe that she would lie to me. She has no problem continueing her charade.
        Working 28 hrs 7 days a week is norm. She gets a free pass.i get the shaft. Good bye cruel world
        Alowishes

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        • June 30, 2019 at 10:39 am
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          I have been there. Work on yourself. I got ripped and read more books, YOUTUBE for spiritual healing and ALPHA male training. you’re either heading into the storm you’re in storm or you’re heading out of the storm.

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      • June 27, 2019 at 7:22 pm
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        I have been cheated on in the past.The family knew and I didn’t know was with this guy for 15 years and didn’t know he had a love child. It all came out once a family member of his had a disagreement with him over money.I have trust issues now lol but I’m with a great guy now I think.

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    • June 15, 2019 at 10:49 pm
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      Why not just ask!
      It’s all in the eyes, and body language, even if she’s good at covering things up, you know her and about her, the only thing stopping you from finding out is you! For want of all the rigmarol that comes after! Maybe you just don’t want to be on your own! To start all over! What it’s like to be adolescent! xo

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  • April 27, 2019 at 3:12 am
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    U sound like u have what it takes ..good 4 u….

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    • May 14, 2019 at 6:12 pm
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      You are right about soul mate what 8f they are 20 years your junior

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  • April 25, 2019 at 8:24 pm
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    Ladies, Men… if it has come to the point you are reading these how to tell and you spend more time being suspicious than simply happy, no matter how much you believe they are the one and will change in time.. say your goodbyes now and move on don’t spend the one thing we are not promised on the one thing we have control over , easier said than done? Easier to move on before you invested to much emotion . Our soul mates are out there waiting

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    • May 1, 2019 at 5:52 pm
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      Thats good advice but hard 2 take.

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      • May 13, 2019 at 7:18 pm
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        I think it’s bull myself. Some people are just hooked on these phones. People are rude & answer them constantly. Friends text friends all day & night. It doesn’t mean their cheating . They are just obsessed & rude

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        • June 17, 2019 at 3:02 pm
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          How is it rude to answer the phone ? I get called rude when i don’t answer or text back

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      • June 16, 2019 at 3:52 pm
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        I think everyone has good points in these comments. You don’t need to read this article to know if yours if your Sig. Other is cheating. Just the fact that you are reading this article means they are cheating and you are looking for excuses to believe them or you are overly jealous and have no business being in a relationship until you learn to love yourself or there is no trust and if there is no trust there is no relationship. I like the comment about how rude people are with their phones because it’s beyond true. Just because the phone is blowing up doesn’t mean they are cheating it just means they are under 30. And have no concept of true human interaction.
        Again childish crap.

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    • June 2, 2019 at 8:04 pm
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      No because.i deserve the respect and honesty that told him in the beginng.
      “do not lie”. That and dont take me for granted!! I believe that if he loves me like he says he does and that he is going to prove it to me … I expect him to at leasr be man enough to do that it least…. When i commit . its not just because. Its for the long hall..

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    • June 6, 2019 at 10:26 pm
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      What to do when you know but cant get him to admit even when you have all evidence of the truth

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      • June 21, 2019 at 9:14 pm
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        It’s crazy but until I print up actual photos of the 999 file folder of evidence taken directly from his phones and computer by him it’s deny deny deny lie lie lie you’re right it is the lies and when finally forced to face the music it’s gonna be over anyways ya know it hurts but it has and will be better get excited and focus on what we deserve without exceptions.

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        • June 25, 2019 at 7:43 pm
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          cheater husband of 28 years, has to be a narcissistic sociopath. To be caught in the kitchen texting. His body language gave it all away. He was trying to hide his phone like a child. I said omg. Again. Always a customer from work or an employee. I went through his phone found out more than I could handle. Lies like a thief. I spoke with both of these girls ..he told both lust relationshis that he was single. Had a secret bank account. While I was working my ass off he was spending money on hotels. Her rent. The best restaurants. Brand new second phones out of my joint account. Manipulation is their game. Lie about his check being wrong. I called the human resources lady. Spoke for an hour. Third girl from work is pregnant on suboxene. Drug user. First girl…25 yrs younger. Second girl is black from Congo she is 21. She stole 3k out of bank accounts this was her motive. Elbowed him in the face grabbed his phone while he had the bank app open. Third girl waa also low level. Mentality. Pregnant on probation. Never trust a liar. Once they cheat it is a repeated act. While I sit at home staring at the walls..your cheater sociopath is out planting his d in VA jay jays. Got tested from the doctor. How embarrassing. To have secret affairs the secret is full of daily lies…this is what keeps them doing the daily grooming, new sexy underwear, new clothes, new phone. Phone always the ringer is off. They tell u that they loce you…do not be desperate to hear these words. True love is trust, communication and integrity. Not for them to be controlling your money so that they can date. I took his phone to the police station in a major blizzard to be told that he is in a sex ring. Apps on phone. Contacts on what’s app. Duo etc do not lie.

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    • June 7, 2019 at 2:04 pm
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      Love that comment I couldn’t say it better..

      WHEN IN DOUBT I SIMPLY FIND ANOTHER ROUTE…

      remember doubt isn’t something one usually creates themselves, doubt is usually placed by somebody else, figure that out and ask yourself why…

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    • June 20, 2019 at 10:47 pm
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      I wasted 25 years with someone who could care less. Never got it right. Don’t waste your time, life is to short. Move on.

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  • April 24, 2019 at 1:15 am
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    It seems almost impossible to see relationships that aren’t destroyed from cheating. Lust seems to be more powerful than love. After seeing so many divorces, so many unfaithful partners… Even untrue friendships… I’ve come to the conclusion that true love amongst partners simply do not exist, are one-sided, or do not last. I know there are those people who stay married into old age… But those seem so few far and in between… They are like true miracles. Those people are truly blessed. . . I wish I could’ve had a faithful partner to spend my life with. There just isn’t one for me. So I’m learning to live for myself, and to accept that there are just too many damn cheaters out there!!

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    • April 25, 2019 at 8:07 am
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      AMEN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! 🙏🏼 💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯 In times like these when even Beyoncé has an unfaithful partner situation, there’s just no hope. The father of my 2 year old son and 5 month old daughter, at the time 2 month old, just abandoned us after some random person texted me saying my man was unfaithful to me. The man I loved and thought loved me. The man I trusted with every cell in my body, when I normally don’t trust. So I’ve come to the same conclusion sis! It’s time I live for myself and my kids. I will NEVER trust another penis EVER again!!!! 💯💯💯

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      • May 1, 2019 at 8:39 pm
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        Well I am so sorry to hear that it just happen to me last week my long time 9 year girl friend just drop my ass me over some other guy and I thought she was the right female for she was my soul mate but I guess I spoke to soon all she did played with my heart and feelings so I think wen u are faithful they treat u wrong and wen messing around they treat u better I think so

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        • May 4, 2019 at 7:58 am
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          This probably happened because she was your GIRLFRIEND for 9 long years. Did you ever plan on giving her a true commitment of marriage or just keep her as a girlfriend for years on end? People lose faith when there hasn’t been any growth especially being just a girlfriend/ boyfriend for almost a decade.

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          • May 6, 2019 at 1:27 pm
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            Sounds that easy! But I need to hear what others think please I can’t really figure this one out. I mean I need to know even if he’s playing games with my head because he is involved with someone already..

          • May 7, 2019 at 11:56 am
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            Commitment is commitment

          • May 18, 2019 at 3:05 pm
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            Excellent reply.

          • June 16, 2019 at 8:23 pm
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            Women don’t cheat for sex. They cheat for emotional needs. Something they’re not getting or think they’re not getting in their current relationship. I’m not making excuses for them, they are still guilty of cheating but if you have any interest in saving the relationship you might try to examine it and see what it might be lacking. Or better yet, go see a marriage or couples counselor.

        • May 7, 2019 at 8:06 pm
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          We need to change our ideas of monogamy.

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          • May 31, 2019 at 6:48 am
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            I truly believe in monogamy but in the same token I feel that society just doesn’t any more. ME and my friend was watching family feud together and in the fast money round the question was ” from 1 to 10 how many people want too cheat on there marriage “. We were stunned to see that the top answer was 5!! I looked at her and said 5……….. you’ve got too be kidding me!! We looked at each other and said “well why did these people get married”?? I don’t know I could be wrong but it just seems like there’s a lot of cheating going on out there!! I’m 55 years old and NEVER been married because I can’t find a strong enough woman that are truly willing to fight as hard for our relationship as I would. I don’t even want too mention how many times I’ve been cheated on myself BUT it hasn’t stopped me from looking for the real!! Hope is all we have in our search. I say just as you women have said learn to be alone but never give up on hope. Theirs got to be someone out there for us. Patience is what we have to believe in! And of course God!

          • June 16, 2019 at 3:59 pm
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            Agreed hook up apps like tinder POF and humble are part of the problem

        • May 9, 2019 at 7:23 am
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          If you thought she was the right girl for you, why was she still only a “girlfriend” after 9 years? Perhaps she wanted more commitment then you were apparently able to give. To reference Beyoncé again, if ‘Cause if you liked it, then you should have put a ring on it’
          Just a thought…

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          • May 16, 2019 at 5:48 pm
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            I feel the same way.

          • May 25, 2019 at 6:10 pm
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            A ring doesn’t mean much any more people stray men and women both. Court houses are full of divorce. Pure and simple, its are culture period. Shame on us just further decay of the social structure in the USA and abroad as well….

          • June 27, 2019 at 7:35 pm
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            Well, I’m not much on giving advice. My life’s not now nor never been very perfect. I’m not a very trusting soul you might say. Been married 50 years and been cheated on more than once. Guess I’m a chump by most opinion. I believe the grass isn’t necessarily greener on the other side and on one is perfect. Including me. I like life simple and strive to keep it that way. I don’t think I know what love is but I know what commitment is. It is hard. I could cheat but just don’t want to hurt anyone anymore including myself. Good luck to you and try keeping it simple. Even though the world will probably end up hating you.

        • May 25, 2019 at 9:35 pm
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          Stay strong she will be back but when she comes back you will never trust her be really careful sometimes it’s better that she did leave sounds like she will always love you and most the time they come back her boyfriend will probably cheat on her than she will want to come back so while she is gone think about how you will really fill when she comes back you will probably meet someone and not want her back good luck .

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        • June 21, 2019 at 6:07 am
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          This is for Michelle C I agree with you 100%. Women are wired differently. Men are influenced by their sexual mind set. It desides most of their decisions. Where no sexual anythings have any barring on our decisions. Men mistakenly think we are hard wired like them. Bless their hearts.

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      • May 3, 2019 at 8:19 pm
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        They call us dogs but there are those of us out there that truly are faithful and from what i have seen in my life time of romances i have only had one that was faithful but sad enough we just didnt have the chemistry for love. I have gotten tired of going through it. Not going to sink to that level but i its human nature to learn the hard way. So after i talk and talk about it and they dont listen i will make it look the same way as they do without actually cheating. Not even wanting too. Its amazing just how much they say it hurts them and how awful i am for doing it. But when they say it i just hold up a mirror.

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        • May 5, 2019 at 5:40 am
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          Man I’ve been with one woman for a decade. Actually married her at the age of 19. She had 5 beautiful girl’s by me as she say’s. But I came to find out she was messing around with my so-called friends and family. I take relationships seriously but if I’m gonna get cheated on over n over pffff I’d rather be by myself n die by myself. I’m a 47 YR old man n counting.

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          • May 8, 2019 at 8:39 am
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            From ur pic u look pretty damn good..i am sorry she cheated..i am always faithful to the men I am with..I am 51 and been around the block a few times..i hope things work out for u amd ur children..😁

          • May 9, 2019 at 2:03 pm
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            I hear ya.Im happily married but if it ended like yours I would just move on in life alone. The games get old and going through the stages of falling in love were much easier when we were younger.I actually married a childhood friend a few years ago and it’s nice to have friendship to fall back on when times get tough.

          • May 13, 2019 at 7:31 am
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            I hear ya sweety. I’m a 49 year old woman and was with my husband for 12 years and 8 of those years. We were married. He was cheating on me our whole relationship. Either he was damn good at hiding it or I was damn good at being naive. I am a faithful, loving person that just cant seem to find the same kind of man. I’m sorry for your hurt.

          • May 17, 2019 at 3:52 pm
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            You can’t judge a book by its cover,what looks good ain’t always good,me first,date,get to know them,sometimes it takes 9 years if their hiding their true selves.

          • June 26, 2019 at 11:02 pm
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            I’ve done worse than the physical act of cheating. I never cheated physically. But the fantasies and thoughts of cheating were and are there. it is simple but I still confuse myself between my brain , my heart, and between my legs.

      • May 4, 2019 at 6:21 pm
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        Did you happen to find out 100% the your kids father at the time was truly being unfaithful or did you get the text and then assume he was and then left him over it?

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      • May 7, 2019 at 10:14 pm
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        Never put all your eggs in one basket 🤣😂

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        • June 4, 2019 at 11:29 pm
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          I use to think that way.i did that same thing 30 years
          Ago,I was 31 and my true love was 21.he had a 16
          Month old baby girl and his ex cheated on him3 times
          Be for he cout her cheating ass. Me I cout my ex cheating on me after 13
          Years the last 3 years
          Is whin I cout my ex
          Cheating on me.me and my true love have and are still
          Together fathfull for the last
          30 years we have been together. Dont get me rong
          We have had our ups and downs,we have stayed fathfull together for ever.we take our vows very seriously.
          We went out on a date that night .and I had a 8 and 9 years old boy and a girl.he
          Step up and we came a insect family.all the kids
          Are all grown up.and now it is just me and him.and we are loving it now.and just as much in love to day as the first time we meet. It brakes my hart to read about
          All the cheating going on in this day and time.hope you all find some one to be with
          And love for ever.

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      • June 6, 2019 at 2:13 pm
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        Not sure how I even came across your comment but there are still plenty of good dudes out here. Those type of men and women are just selfish. We;re not all that way… promise.

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    • April 25, 2019 at 9:50 pm
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      That is not always true…I’ve been married for 35 years and would never cheat on my husband. He loves me and trusts me, and believes in me above all others. I could never be the one to betray him and break his heart. It would ruin him. And it would destroy me. Having total faith and trust and absolute love is so much more important that a short lived good time

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      • May 4, 2019 at 10:18 am
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        @kelly Jeff.

        You are a rare species. This is not the world we live in. Nowadays it seems that relationship don’t workout the way they use to in the past. People don’t want to be faithful. With the creation of so many social media platforms, people seem to want to creep around. I was a faithful person and got burnt. I wish we could have ended a failed marriage the right way instead of me finding out what she was capable of through digging in to her activities when I wasn’t around. I was a supportive husband and treated her like a queen.
        It’s been a year and it still hurts like day one. The pain caused by cheating is unexplainable. I don’t wish this on anyone. The lingering effect change the person that you are. You will be left with many questions. You will wonder what was really real and who the person really was.
        My advice to anyone that wants to find out the truth is to sit down and talk with their partner. It is best to come to an amicable separation than to find out the through seeing or hearing what your partner is up to because you will never forget it.

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        • May 31, 2019 at 7:01 am
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          WOW sooooooo true!! It leaves a very bad taste in your mouth!! And so hard to TOTALLY trust again! I’m with you though. We gotta just keep PUSHING! We might be 80 before we get married but by then it should be real!😂😂😂😂💯🤷🏾‍♂️🤷🏾‍♂️🤦🏾‍♂️🤦🏾‍♂️🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾💯💯💯💯

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        • June 30, 2019 at 1:22 am
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          I totally agree! Being cheated on takes so much out of the faithful one. Because we have to relive it every morning when we wake up. It makes me sick to my stomach, & it feels as if I’m going to die inside, become so cold that even if I got rid of the”problem”, I think, how can i be anyones “anything” now. Some days I cry for hours alone in my room. I believe that people should be loved whole heartedly. I am a very “needy” partner, and feel that even the little “things” are NEEDED. BIG OR LITTLE actions speak pretty loudly! I try to believe that there are FAITHFUL ONES like me. But technology is making that, well…frightening!

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      • May 5, 2019 at 5:45 am
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        @ Kelly. God bless both of u. Kp up the awesome work of marriage. Wish both of u the best in life.

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        • May 6, 2019 at 1:37 pm
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          Yes how beautiful it must be for both of you ..may I ask how your upbringings where as a child for both of you? No broken family’s no abuse of any kind . No abandonment from a parent leaving your home at a young age. And this goes on. Get where I’m going with this. Some relationships end up in breakups or cheating on or less store codependency the capital of use all because of our past upbringings you know it’s kind of like a cycle that one has to break I’m still going through that 44 years old can I still can’t find the right guy for me I always put up with the cheaters liars verbally abused me and I take you to my taking my taking my stuff take it and I’m so tired and exhausting I don’t know how to do that I was trying to figure out a way and to catch them and what was the reason why can you help me out here

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          • May 10, 2019 at 6:42 pm
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            My ex wife wanted a guy who was 40 married 3 kids his wife lived in the Philippines. So she met him several times for sex and other things. I finally found out and left her. Iam now 77 and miss her very much quit talking to her and am now even more lonely I work 50 hrs a week just to keep from thinking of her.

          • May 16, 2019 at 10:33 pm
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            Hmmmm, just celebrated our 50th anniversary of marriage after dating for four years before we tied the knot. Both of us were the product of a divorce.
            Both of us were abandoned by one parent. Both of us became caregivers for younger sibling at pre-teen ages because our Mom’s had to work to support us. Where I am going with this, is as long as you live under your parent’s roof,
            you really have no control over your life. The minute you “escape” your bad situation, YOU ARE IN CONTROL! Barring tragedies or illness, you make your own life; and so we did. We have had a marvelous life, and our two kids never had the challenges we each did. No luck was involved – we worked our butts off – at school, at home, at work, and at church. Life is a series of choices; make good choices, one at a time, based on discipline and common sense, and you can accomplish the desires of your heart at any age. Choice – not excuse….

          • June 5, 2019 at 2:32 am
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            My husband and I have been married for 27 years. We met in March 1992, started dating May 1992 and got married October 1992. I knew the first time I saw him that he would be my husband. We were never able to have children and that was the biggest problem we could not overcome but we’re still here. We both came from homes where our parents divorced but remarried each other. Both of our fathers were alcoholics although mine stopped drinking. His father was physically and emotionally abusive while my mom was emotionally abusive. We both came from families that barely made ends meet. I was the one who had a hard time believing that he wanted just me forever. He had been very active in dating and one night stands. I had dated but was never very promiscuous and had self esteem issues. The first year was hard because I had a hard time believing that I was enough for him after knowing how many women he had been with. He was patient, loving and steadfast in showing me how much he wanted and needed me. We made each other better and now I cannot remember what it was like not to be married to him. I was 23 and he was 25 when we married. I’m now almost 50. True soul mates exist. They are out there and sometimes we are blessed with finding them. If someone cheats on you, as hard as it is, please don’t let them make you bitter and unbelieving. Keep being you and don’t let them change you. I wasn’t looking for a relationship when I found my mate. I knew he was mine and I wanted him forever when he told me this on our 3rd date: “When a soul leaves Heaven to be born into this world, it is split in two. Then those two halves spend the rest of their lives trying to find their other half. Only a very few are successful. I think you are the other half of my soul and I need you to make me whole again”. I remember that statement word for word from the moment he said it to me. A lot of people will say it’s just a line he used to get to me, but the look in his eyes and on his face could not be faked. I could see myself in his eyes. God blessed us and I still don’t know why but I won’t question it. I pray that each and every person who has been hurt will find the person to make them whole.

      • May 10, 2019 at 9:52 am
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        Amen! Faithfulness is where it’s at. I have been married 14 years. Emotions come and go, but our marriage is a commitment. I need to make her feel loved and appreciated over Mother’ Day. All other thoughts besides your spouse are just temptations and know nothing good will ever come from something bad. God bless you all, keep working on your marriage!

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    • April 26, 2019 at 11:10 pm
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      Thats why you start living Your life like it was intended to,!?. Live to make Your self happy think about it we came in to by our self for the most so why not live happy and loved and respected by your self? Where is it stated that we lock down? There is two oppitse for a reason that is simple! Rebirth and that’s it…! If we shall marry or anything else its simply cause we settle to be content where we are and What we have others are insecurities!!! Simple as that and fuccin fact. So with all that being said the true question is why cant we figure out how to aply making our selfs happy just the same as if we was lock down with someone? Sept with out all the disappoints and hurt!?.

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    • April 28, 2019 at 5:29 pm
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      There are a (few) good men out there. However, as my now ex husband once said, “The nice guys aren’t the successful ones”. By that he meant, financially successful. Here’s a tip, don’t go looking for the alpha male, the rich guy, a politician, you know the type.

      It took a divorce (not my idea), and many relationships, but I finally found a loving, commited, kind, considerate, honest, intelligent, educated, handsome guy who treats me like his princess. His only “flaw” is – he has always held a job, but has no assets or savings. Sometimes it bothers me that I support him, but he does so much for me – (cooks, does the dishes, car, home, boat, rv maintenance,brings me coffee (and sometimes breakfast) in bed – that I don’t feel taken advantage of. I wanted someone who is free to travel and sail for months, and ski, etc. with, so I expect something in return. Do I think this is the reason he’s faithful? No, he’s just one of the few good guys out there. So, don’t give up hope. Btw, I met him 7 years ago, when I was 58! My grown daughters like and trust him, too.

      Btw, I only read this article to determine if my ex husband met any of the criteria.

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    • April 29, 2019 at 12:16 pm
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      Amen sister!!

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    • April 29, 2019 at 9:53 pm
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      Me to I feel that is do true I am by myself and ok with it.

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    • May 1, 2019 at 5:56 pm
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      I was married 32 yrs, left because of accusations that sent me to do the things i was accused of. Now a yr later, i am with a cheater and life is …

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    • May 11, 2019 at 2:14 am
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      I realize moral fiber has gone down the tubes but ….not everybody cheats. It goes deeper than that. It’s the personality type for which you attract or that your attracted to. Narcissism is prevalent these days. A real epidemic worth checking out. Good luck

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    • May 11, 2019 at 6:24 pm
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      I know it sounds so cliche but… don’t give up! What makes love special is knowing pain as well. The two go hand in hand, yin’s and yang. A wise man once said “ I’m glad I didn’t know the way it all would end the way it all would go, our lives are better left to chance, I could have missed the pain but then I’d missed the dance.” (Garth Brooks) cheesy but true.

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    • May 14, 2019 at 2:24 am
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      Dont give up on love just yet. The whole purpose in life is to learn how to love and that includes ourselves. Perhaps things happen for a reason. Maybe we were meant to have the opportunity to learn how to be loved by another, how to love others, and how to love ourselves. Doors for these are opened for necessity. Take the hint. Live alone, live with someone, or allow someone to live with you.

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    • May 23, 2019 at 11:31 pm
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      Ain’t that the truth.

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    • May 26, 2019 at 6:22 am
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      I completely agree and I couldn’t have said it better.

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    • June 6, 2019 at 9:28 pm
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      You what Sonja Love,it seems as if you have given up on finding that one who makes you feel as if you was back in high school.Or letting that one who pleases you day in and vice versa.The moment your mind is not on searching,👀,and forcing the inevitable…He’s going to sweep you off your feet and have you looking for him in the daytime with a flashlight!!!….At times GOD has ways of placing you in a mindset that all you need is you,which is true.At the same time HE created man for woman,and woman for man!….The day that you find that certain Hey Papi your not going to notice bcuz you been a loner for so long that its not going to feel right.Best believe me,that will not be the last time you see Mr. HEY PAPI….He will show up again,in the right place at the right time and u will feel the vibes more than u ever felt it in your life…..Sonja love….Just hang in there,he’s coming…..GOD got u!!!

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    • June 10, 2019 at 12:18 pm
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      I know that many are unfaithful. I am sorry for your experience. My wife and I are one of the blessed couple’s. We do not follow money, we work well together as a team, and our priorities are God and family. Keep it the good fight. Define the top 10 things that you need (not want) in s relationship. For instance love of God, family, is a reader, enjoys animals are in my top 10. Has a nice ass is s want, not s need. Cheers

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    • June 26, 2019 at 8:04 pm
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      After just being dumped and not knowing I was being cheated on, but knew something was not right, I never expected it to be cheating. Thought it was job, illness etc. I have come to believe there is no such thing as a faithful man. They all liars.

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  • April 23, 2019 at 9:08 pm
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    Here I am a genuinely faithful and honest guy that doesnt cheat and never has and have always been treated like shit and cant even find a decent girl who can actually stick around.times changed too much for me I’m 32 and feel like I’ll never find anyone 😔

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    • April 24, 2019 at 7:43 pm
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      Dont ever give up on love. Be patient. Be still. Wait on the Lord to reveal to you whom he has for you. Talk to the Lord and pray and tell him specifically what you want. But just know that he will give you what you need. You young. You 32. You will have someone when you are not looking.

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      • April 30, 2019 at 12:13 pm
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        I have a descent husband as a provider but when it comes to us we’ll? He doesn’t think we need intimacy anymore he doesn’t like getting dressed to get my attention and he doesn’t like going out on an adult evening. He’s happy sitting home with grandchildren and a television. He comes from a family that no one feels like having a relationship other than a TV is important?! Married 27 years but tired of the routine ready for my golden years. Am I wrong?

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        • May 11, 2019 at 10:17 am
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          No you are not wrong. I’m in the same situation been married 31 years same thing. It make me very sad, I feel unwanted.

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          • May 23, 2019 at 11:35 pm
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            I think every relationship needs work,just some more than others.

        • June 1, 2019 at 2:35 am
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          I can relate! I’ve been married for over 40 years and unfortunately you get into a rut. You are now still best of friends, completely comfortable with each other, love to share time with the grand kids, date nights have faided and sex, well it becomes non existent. At this point in your life you have to decide what’s more important, keeping the romance alive or living out a comfortable life with your spouse? Some people are able to keep both alive and well but it takes work, a lot of work! The truth of the matter is as we age things begin to droop, shift, fall out, sag, wrinkle and just get outright unpleasant to look at, it happens to all of us. We also loose the very chemical makeup in our bodies that made us lust for one another in our youth, slow down the attraction and hormones in our 40’s & 50’s, and leave us for the most part unattractive as we head into our so called “Golden Years”. By the way, there’s nothing golden about the golden years, it’s a mythical load of BS that card company’s came up with to make that time in our lives seem magical, trust me it’s not, but that’s a topic all of its own for a later comment! Now where was I, oh yes, unattractive. Face it, the babe we married looks nothing like our wedding pictures now, and that suave, chiseled manly man resembles someone more like Archie Bunker! So despite our best efforts, that spark we had has dwindled to a flicker, then you throw in any health issues, medication side effects, shrinkage and drying out, and you’ve got desire down to about 20%. I’m sorry to be the bearer of bad news, but shit happens in life we simply have no control over. Now those who seem to still be in love, can’t keep their hands off each other, go on romantic vacations and live like they are still in their 20’s, I want to know what drugs they’re taking so I can order some right frigin now!!! But seriously, it’s your life. If you think the grass is greener on the other side of the fence, if you still have the desire for romance, sex, and living life to the fullest, you owe it to your partner to convey these desires so he can decide what’s important to him as well. You may well want the same thing but you’re too comfortable with life as it is to even bring up the subject. He may want nothing more than to jump your bones, but was afraid he’d get shutdown so he says or does nothing. The longer two people are together, the more they learn to exist in a familiar environment. You’ve been doing the same things for so long they simply become routine and the years quite literally fly by. You’re situation is far from unique, and wondering if there can be more to life then tv and the grand kids is a reasonable question. Now its up to you to see if your other half is wondering the same thing, or if you just need to get back on the same page and rekindle the flame…

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          • June 5, 2019 at 6:23 am
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            I never thought I would have been cheated until the day I went on Instagram and say a message from.a women he wanted to meet her. When I approached him .he lied and said no..then when I read the email what he wrote he claim he didn’t do anything with her. He was just talking and drunk. He never drinks but all of a sudden he claim he was drink
            I have 2 kids. He never wanted sex and seems so irresponsibly. Can never temp anything

    • April 24, 2019 at 9:03 pm
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      Don’t worry I’ve learned that there is someone out there for you, you might be searching in the wrong places.

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    • April 25, 2019 at 8:56 pm
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      I know how you feel..it seems like I have a thing for p ujcking the worst guys ever..if I didnt know thier background I would of thought it was just me…anyway dont let that change who u are…you will find someone that will appreciate you and what u have to offer..good luck to you..

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      • April 30, 2019 at 10:16 am
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        I believe that a background check is over the top what if the person did some crazy stuff but has changed and like me my girl knows that I have old dating sites that I simply don’t use

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    • April 26, 2019 at 11:15 pm
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      My dude I just wrote a long ass comment see if you can find it but its the same it was never ment to be like that (it gets deep) and that’s why both sex say the same thing its not one or the other it’s both! But because we are raised on lies and bullshit it is hard for both sex to except the truth even tho its sitting right in there face day after day. Hope that helps bro. H0gg

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    • April 27, 2019 at 2:49 am
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      Hey,just seen ur comment, sounds so much like me but baby dnt give up cos ur time to shine will cm when u least expect it and they will always love u ….,nver give up….jewels……

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      • May 31, 2019 at 7:31 am
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        I had been married for over half my life to a man I thought I knew better than myself when we started out we had nothing I mean nothing but I didn’t care about that I loved him I trusted him with everything i felt the love we had for each other no way would anything or any one would ever come between we were great together everyone said so you know the couple all wanted to be & if someone had told me that we would not stay that way until the day I took my last breath I probably would have hit them in their mouth never did the thought of him stepping out entered my mind not even when he was doing it talk about blind naive or just plain stupid all the signs were there now that I look back but I didn’t see it then I don’t understand but as I said I trusted in him if he had told me the sky was green I’d believed him I was a faithful devoted dedicated wife partner friend a good mother to our 2 sons to him & our family treated him like a king actually maybe too much like a king my sister in law called me one morning & what she had said left me in a state of shock I didn’t know what to say except ok thanks 35 years meant nothing to him I meant nothing our family meant nothing why why did he choose to destroy us our life that was to me almost perfect & that still bothers me the why part but apparently others knew of things he had been doing our whole life together or let me say the lie we were living I didn’t know the man I slept beside for 35yrs but others did how embarrassed he had made me & so it’s been almost 4 years being alone trying to find my way- what I’m suppose to be doing in my life still struggling with that i don’t ever want to feel that pain again …..so everyone pay attention to everything even the smallest – when you say to yourself , “‘naw that’s nothing ” it most likely is . Good luck to everyone may you be wrapped in loves embrass again . Love will find you ❤️

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    • April 27, 2019 at 5:47 am
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      You will! Let go of trying so hard.let go at least outwardly of feeling insecure, or that you’ll never be good enough. I feel a solid secure relationship.

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  • April 18, 2019 at 9:32 pm
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    You cant love 2 people at the same time so if you think you can better pick the second one cause if ya loved the 1st one there wouldn’t be a second one and once your thinking about cheating the relationship is already over cause that’s the case I will never cheat on someone cause I would do it right in their face cause its over with anyways if your cheating on someone and if ya don’t have trust it will never work out in the first place and being honest is the best thing to do but hardly anyone is honest these days am always honest because for one I cant keep up with all the lies you have to tell to lie in the first place and I always tell on my self to began with lol just my thought on the subject I could be wrong but always go with your gut it will never lead ya wrong always go with your first thought before another thought can enter and you will b e fine my gut has never been wrong …..

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    • April 26, 2019 at 9:49 pm
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      Right be honest because lies are evil u have to always cover one lie with another lie just be honest I told my ex I was not happy with him anymore we went out separate ways we still talk because I was honest and never cheated I would never cheat I wouldn’t want it done to me everybody out there just be honest and loyal

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      • April 28, 2019 at 5:45 pm
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        There are a (few) good men out there. However, as my now ex husband once said, “The nice guys aren’t the successful ones”. By that he meant, financially successful. Here’s a tip, don’t go looking for the alpha male, the rich guy, a politician, you know the type.

        It took a divorce (not my idea), and many relationships, but I finally found a loving, commited, kind, considerate, honest, intelligent, educated, handsome guy who treats me like his princess. His only “flaw” is – he has always held a job, but has no assets or savings. Sometimes it bothers me that I support him, but he does so much for me – (cooks, does the dishes, car, home, boat, rv maintenance,brings me coffee (and sometimes breakfast) in bed – that I don’t feel taken advantage of. I wanted someone who is free to travel and sail for months, and ski, etc. with, so I expect something in return. Do I think this is the reason he’s faithful? No, he’s just one of the few good guys out there. So, don’t give up hope. Btw, I met him 7 years ago, when I was 58! My grown daughters like and trust him, too.

        Btw, I only read this article to determine if my ex husband met any of the criteria.

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      • May 10, 2019 at 10:50 pm
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        I left my husband after 23 years cuz I fell out of love with him. And I was honest with him and told him so. All we were doing was arguing alot I knew it was time to leave .we had 4 children all grown up and grand kids my kids under stood and I moved on. I did find a great man that treated me like a queen together 13 years then he passed away I just about fell apart. I learned true love is really out there some times u just have to Waite for Mr right so don’t give up there out there

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  • April 16, 2019 at 6:49 pm
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    If you are dating someone don’t date that person forever if he is around another girl

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    • April 17, 2019 at 7:21 pm
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      My girlfriend is so jealous, she thinks I’m having sex with all the girls, and sometimes she excuse me of having sex with older ladies and always checking on my phone

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      • April 25, 2019 at 10:37 pm
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        Hi….I am a 60 yr. Old lady who is here 2 tell u that there is someone out here 4 you. 1st…u have 2 make sure that u all r on the same page want the same thing in life as you. Beauty counts on the inside as well as on the outside. Pray about it and ask GOD ur heart desire.
        I will pray 4 u. You r still very young and I need 2 tell u 2 validate ur self. Make ur life happy. Kniw that u r n a good place b4 trying 2 invite someone else into ur 🌎. We use 2 believe in growing 2gather…..building 2gather. Today, seem like ppl. Want you 2 have it totally 2gather already. You have 2 b stable, caring, and ready 2 treat that person like they r the only one.

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    • April 20, 2019 at 12:29 pm
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      Just because his around other girls dont make it cheating right away. There’s always other reasons

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      • April 26, 2019 at 9:14 pm
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        What are the other reasons

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      • May 14, 2019 at 3:31 am
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        I cannot imagine being single, AGAIN. I’ve been in my current relationship going on 14 years. And it’s work. But the kind of work that makes you feel good at the end of the day. I believe that is one of the things that keeps us together. I am a very faithful woman. I know what it feels like to be cheated on. I know what it feels like to feel like your not enough to keep your spouse happy. I had the luxury of wondering what 12 years of my ex cheating with everyone and then some, what did they have that I didn’t have. And if course…”WHY?” . I NEVER wanted to be in another relationship again at 29yrs old. I didn’t hate men, just didn’t want to keep one . E when I met John I was 36, and all I know is that he is my best friend. He makes me laugh, and accepted me then and still does for who I am. It’s been 13 and into our 14th year together. Of course there is is and downs, but NEVER have we spent one night away from each other due to a fight or argument. That was one of my rules I put on the table when it started getting serious. I feel like as grown ups,we should be able to work it out if not and you leave, leaving me to wonder and go nuts thinking the worst. !? That’s no way to make it better. Am I wrong? My ex was extremely abusive, and taking off after a fight was his tactic to go and be with other women. I don’t expect nothing that I’m not willing to give it do myself. Whatever it is that has kept us together and happy is working. One of these days we will really get married. It would be nice, but after my last marriage, I would rather keep my father’s name and stay happy than take another and go through that again.

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    • April 22, 2019 at 9:30 pm
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      When it’s over. It’s over. Why stick around for the games. Respect yourself enough to not have the rest of us talk about you when you come around… please 😁

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  • March 26, 2019 at 9:11 pm
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    Faithful to all of them!

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    • April 4, 2019 at 12:01 pm
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      Don’t be a fool! If you suspect your partner is cheating, do your own investigation get all the info that ” YOU” need to help you decide if you should continue as a loving couple or if you should just fall back to the dating attitue. The only person that can give you the answer you truly need to know-is you and your commonsense. Just like they felt you didn’t need to know about their significant other, they don’t need to know the info you found or know if your planning on leaving them. The Game has reversed and now you’re in charge of your life and decision. So when or if they decide to tell you its over- speak your FACTS not ASSUMPTIONS, look’em in the eye and say ” Its been over!”

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      • April 7, 2019 at 9:20 pm
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        I love my kids too much. truth comes to light. Jesus will never let me down. It’ll probably be me convincing God to let her in after all, love is

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        • April 29, 2019 at 1:08 am
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          I know how you feel!! Here I am heartbroken & ready to give up on all men again, not that I want to because at 35, that will be a long lonely life!! However, I would rather be lonely than used, walked on & hurt yet again!! I’m a good woman who will do anything & everything for the one I’m with, it still doesn’t seem to ever be enough for any of them!! Like I said, I was ready to give up on a faithful relationship all together, then I read your post, this has reminded me that there are good men (like yourself) still out there, so thank you!! I just wish I could find one of them!! So Matt, don’t give up on women either, good one’s (like me) are out there, they’re just hard to find!!

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      • April 9, 2019 at 5:53 pm
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        If some loves you they will stay with you and give you all of them but you need to be doing the same thing in return

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        • April 23, 2019 at 5:07 pm
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          So very true and people forget that

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        • April 25, 2019 at 10:56 pm
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          AMEN!!!!! That is why we should really seek HIM for r parnter. We 2 many times 🙏 after the fact then we fall n love and get hurt bcause we didn’t wait on GOD 4 our blessing. The bible says he who findth a wife findth a good thing so JESUS believe s in marriage. Wenhave a hatd time commucating with one another as women and men. We serve 2 different feelings and desires=
          Womwn desire 2 b loved and men want 2 b respected. There’s nothing wrong at all wanting 2 b loved. I had it but I never believe that he really loved me. Now I wish that we could start over. I pray about it but mayb it wasn’t meant 2 b. GOODTH NIGHT AND GOD BLESS.

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      • April 14, 2019 at 10:18 pm
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        I think my bf is cheating

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        • April 15, 2019 at 1:59 pm
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          Then catch him! I’ve been a victim before and know how it feels!!! I’m single now and I’m staying single from now on! It really sucks being someone not loved…. it might hurt now, but will save so much pain in the long run!

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        • April 15, 2019 at 6:19 pm
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          If u think follow your intuition he probably is

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          • April 27, 2019 at 7:05 pm
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            You are so right & I SO want to be done with him but I am 50 and I don’t want to go out & try to get to know someone All over again, it’s also harder to do at my age.. I don’t want him but I don’t want anyone else to have him either.. I just want him to love me and only me like I do him..😖 I’m tiered of feeling NOT good enough..

        • April 18, 2019 at 11:41 am
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          Look at this website and find out

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      • May 2, 2019 at 3:00 pm
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        That’s advice everyone should really listen to.

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    • April 7, 2019 at 5:51 am
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      I do all those things but not cheating

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      • April 20, 2019 at 12:15 pm
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        So do I. I’m truly in love with my husband and do not desire another man in no way. All advice is not good advice. I’ve been happily married 20 years. If you go off that advice you may be miserably single for 20 years

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    • April 11, 2019 at 3:05 am
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      That must take a lot of talent! Naturally gifted in destroying the people they “love” i wish we could ship them all to narc city with a one way ticket!

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  • March 25, 2019 at 5:58 pm
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    That was very well said. Thank you. I couldnt have said it better.

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    • April 2, 2019 at 8:23 pm
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      I’m a woman. I do all of those things but there is no other guy in sight!! But my bf is an ass hole he mentally cheats by ,constantly looking at other women on line and in my face. He refuses to leave so I show him how he makes me feel

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      • April 5, 2019 at 5:07 pm
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        Same here, except I don’t buy a bunch of clothes.

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      • April 8, 2019 at 10:41 pm
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        so you’re saying ” do what you don’t want him to do?”

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        • April 26, 2019 at 1:34 am
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          I hate cheaters! There is NO reason good enough, not one excuse justifiable, and NO way in hell that it can be forgiven. You can not cheat and expect that some lame excuse can truely honestly be accepted or forgiven. If she allows you to remain in her life after you ripped her soul out, destroyed her security, weakend her comfort, manipulated her mind, belittled her dignity, embarrased her, allowed someone else to speak down on her, allowed someome else to laugh at her, allowed someome else to take something from her that she trusted you with, then you have done more then just cheat on her. No one deserves to feel the pain of truely loving someome and loving them so much that they cant walk away from someone who doesn’t deserve to be alive! Someone who thinks that its ok to cheat on someone that they claim to love is cold, heartless, selfish, unhappy with themselves, has no value, no morals, careless, destructive, has something truely wrong with them and shouldnt be allowed to act like GOD. Who taught them that, why does their behavior get so easily brushed aside like oh well hes a cheater! Im so so so disappointed in our society and era. Too many times have i seen unfaithfulness by so many! Young ones, old ones, gay ones, rich ones, poor ones, men, women, girls, and boys that can easily without hesitation or guilt enter in someomes life and make them feel like they are the love of the life, lie to them, tell them they wanna spend eternity by their side, simply build an imaginary empire with them, share their life stories, bare children with them and not ever truely have an ounce of love for them, can be so self absorbed that they dont even think that what their doing to others is wrong. If it makes them feel good and them happy, then it doesn’t matter who they hurt or how thwy hurt someome aas long as they get what they want when thwy want it. Its not fair to the person being abused. No one deserves or has the right to take away someones life like that. People have to understand thats just not right.

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          • May 14, 2019 at 3:39 am
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            Your absolutely right, NO REASON IS A GOOD ENOUGH REASON TO CHEAT… IN MY EYES, CHEATING IS ANYTHING THAT TAKES YOUR ATTENTION AWAY FROM YOUR OTHER HALF IN A UNHEALTHY WAY, LIKE TO THE EXTREME.,.. CELL PHONES, INTERNET PORN, INTERNET PERIOD.. FACEBOOK. WHATEVER IT MAY BE. IF YOUR HAVING TROUBLE WITH HIM/HER PUT THE SHIT DOWN, PAY ATTENTION, GET YOUR HANDS DIRTY AND FIX IT. DON’T TALK TO SOMEONE ON THE WEB PUTTING YOUR FATE IN A STRANGER’S HANDS. THERE’S ONLY THE TWO OF YOU IN THIS RELATIONSHIP, ONLY YOU TWO CAN FIX IT, PERIOD .

          • June 26, 2019 at 8:12 pm
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            Ion

          • June 26, 2019 at 8:14 pm
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            I love your post. That is exactly how he made me feel. I did not deserve to be humiliated. “I love you so much”. Yea, right. Men stink.

      • April 10, 2019 at 5:08 pm
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        All men check out other girls. Ur telling me u dont look at men and day dream? Fantasize?

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        • April 17, 2019 at 1:00 am
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          Well thats wrong he wants to get well prepaired for u and women look there at keeping secrets to

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          • April 27, 2019 at 3:07 am
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            To reply to com below easy cm easy go … shame on you ….

      • April 13, 2019 at 10:19 pm
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        I f***** up and I I accused her cheating cuz I had a guilty conscience a long time ago. And then now even if somebody else wants to f****** even though my girlfriend’s broken up with you it doesn’t work cuz I don’t want them I just want my fiance

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        • April 18, 2019 at 8:36 am
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          Ooooooooooh not my problem

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        • April 18, 2019 at 11:56 am
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          I was cheated on at prom. He looked at my friend the entire time. But I still stayed with him thinking he would turn his attention back to me but he didn’t

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      • April 14, 2019 at 2:17 pm
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        I’m here for you

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      • April 16, 2019 at 12:07 am
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        I am a man and if he cannot respect you enough to not ogle and be attentive to you and your needs and requests, then YOU DONT NEED HIM! Period. Dont accept 2nd place or third rate from the person that is supposed to love you. They are not worth it. So evaluate your situation and decide for your self, is he worth my self worth and piece of mind? Because ultimately they are not worth it, ever! Not when you sacrifice you and become miserable. Good luck to you and you are worth it especially to some one who loves YOU!!!

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      • April 19, 2019 at 7:21 am
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        How do you show him?

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    • April 27, 2019 at 2:56 am
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      On a slow boat at that…..

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  • March 20, 2019 at 11:20 pm
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    I wish I didn’t know now what I didn’t know then! 🙁

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    • April 11, 2019 at 3:07 am
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      Im w you! So sorry!💔

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  • March 16, 2019 at 3:11 pm
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    Communicate before you fornicate
    Use your head before you go to bed
    Simple isn’t it building a solid foundation for a relationship isn’t easy but at least try😎

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    • April 5, 2019 at 11:37 pm
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      Not always true that she is cheating. Sometimes she is seeking attention, or bored so her phone keeps her occupied.

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    • April 7, 2019 at 11:29 pm
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      I have to disagree sorry. My man and I look at women online and in public together. We do it even if we aren’t by each other. It’s not mentally cheating in my eyes. We very happy with each other. Guess it’s different when one is bi in the relationship.

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      • April 17, 2019 at 4:15 am
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        Men don’t always cheat first. I was 100 percent faithful and she cheated for over a year. So who cheats first dont mean shit. A cheater is a cheater man or woman

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  • March 4, 2019 at 9:25 am
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    I believe relationship go stronger by mindin your own business stay out of each other phones give each other space and privacy

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    • March 10, 2019 at 12:23 pm
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      Talking to my grandfather who was married for 64 years before he passed away, All relationships will have to deal with some sort of infidelity especially in this social media age. How you choose to reconcile is the big decision.

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      • March 20, 2019 at 5:58 pm
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        na, millenial, open phone policy. just be on the same wavelength and build trust without checking their phone all the time. if someone says no, then you just shook a monkey out of a tree. there u have it.

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        • April 4, 2019 at 11:58 am
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          Don’t be a fool! If you suspect your partner is cheating, do your own investigation get all the info that ” YOU” need to help you decide if you should continue as a loving couple or if you should just fall back to the dating attitue. The only person that can give you the answer you truly need to know-is you and your commonsense. Just like they felt you didn’t need to know about their significant other, they don’t need to know the info you found or know if your planning on leaving them. The Game has reversed and now you’re in charge of your life and decision. So when or if they decide to tell you its over- speak your FACTS not ASSUMPTIONS, look’em in the eye and say ” Its been over!”

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      • March 20, 2019 at 6:05 pm
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        or just live in the present moment, be a real human being, you know, the ones that existed and got along fine without social media. you know, the ones that didnt have a massive influx of anxiety mental health issues in the country that we face now? yeah, those kind. Keeping up with one personality is difficult as is, now you have a cyber personality to uphold. this further diverts you from your true authentic self. dont know self= high chance for infidelity. social media just adds to the confusion.

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        • April 9, 2019 at 9:20 pm
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          Social media is not to blame for a woman being a cheater its just another excuse they will use as to why they did it. Bottom line, they cheated because they are cheaters and that’s who they are.

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          • April 16, 2019 at 10:30 pm
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            I agree. My wife cheated before we got married and stupid me thought married life qould settle her down? Ha not a chance. After 18 years she openly admitted to me she cheated.Now we are getting divorced. Lots of mental pain and anguish. I still love her but it hurts too bad to be together
            Take it from a man with wisdom, if they cheated on you once they will do it again. Doesnt matter who or what with either. Save yourself unwanted and not needed grief and freakin,
            Run To The Hills,
            Run For Your Life.,

      • April 26, 2019 at 3:34 pm
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        Bull$#!+ not all relationships have to deal with infidelity that is just a cop out excuse for your own actions and behavior. I have been in a committed relationship with my wife for many years and I have literally NEVER been unfaithful to her and she has NEVER been unfaithful to me. It is simply a matter of deciding that the person you have chosen to be with is the ONLY PERSON who you will have a sexual relationship with and then living up to that commitment. Any relationship that is not sexual in nature is not cheating, looking at other women is not cheating all human beings are physically attracted to members of the opposite sex it is nature’s way of insuring the survival of the species, and that sexual attraction is GOING TO HAPPEN to all of us. How we respond to that attraction is the only factor in our fidelity. I still see and notice attractive women, however that does not constitute cheating because I do not pursue a sexual relationship with them. I am 100% faithful to my wife and if I can limit the fulfillment of all my sexual urges to just one person ( my wife ) then so can you. It is totally 100% your choice and infidelity is NOT an automatic given in your relationship unless you choose iy to be.

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    • March 10, 2019 at 5:06 pm
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      That’s so true but if you are truly faithful and have nothing to hide then it should not be a problem correct?

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    • March 19, 2019 at 4:05 am
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      I’m a firm believer in the practice of extending trust and respect for personal privacy. However, once these have been violated there are no second chances.

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      • April 5, 2019 at 5:09 pm
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        No second chances? You must be a guy. I swear, men can dish it out but they sure can’t take it.

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        • April 7, 2019 at 12:04 am
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          We can take it, we have for centurys, we just get too busy trying to make a living and put a roof over your head and food on the table and last but not least clothes on your back

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          • April 13, 2019 at 4:40 pm
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            You have for centuries!!! Wtf!! Men cheat before women do in most cases!! So don’t go there saying you “men” have been putting up with it for centuries!! What about the women who make more than you do and are just too busy trying to make a good living, a roof over your head, food on the table and clothes on your backs??? Now ladies you know why we have so many single mothers out there, because of ego minded men like this!!!

          • April 26, 2019 at 9:57 pm
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            That’s right Larry that’s why woman need to respect a hard working man I like to stay home I only go out with my ol man if he dont go I dont go no men aloud in the house when he isn’t home a d I respect all his wishes a d he respects mine we have been together 10 years next month still with the same agreements

          • April 30, 2019 at 7:47 pm
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            Larry you are on the right track talking about how women always want to be taken care of that’s what it’s intended for since the dawn of time God put Adam and Eve Garden told them they can have anything they want except from the tree that was forbidden fruit… and lo and behold first one that cheated on the rules…eve. is also the same reason why the father keeps the daughter away the new husband to be and she now steps away from her father’s name and takes on her husband’s name…marriages isn’t for everyone…. honor loyalty respect I words to live by… either way it boils down to mutual respect for one another you have to respect yourself before you can respect someone else

        • April 10, 2019 at 6:03 pm
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          No second chances here, either and I’m a woman. Once betrayed, trust can never be repaired. You can’t unplay the note.

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        • April 13, 2019 at 7:14 am
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          Don’t speak for all men you have no idea what your talking about

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        • April 28, 2019 at 6:11 pm
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          I heard that 100% true indeed

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    • March 25, 2019 at 10:23 am
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      I will definitely be agree to this statement… Gang I’m siding w/ you on this one! aLL tHumbs down Lol

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      • April 11, 2019 at 12:34 am
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        When use of cell phone or computer is constant in the presence of your partner, it’s rude & thoughtless. So too is constant criticism. It doesn’t help the relationship.
        U r not always correct about the clothes shopping as credit cards allow excessive buying.
        Most woman work at home & outside of the house & also have no time to check up on their mate. The days of men supporting women were mostly over 30 or more years ago.

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    • April 2, 2019 at 9:14 pm
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      I TOTALLY agree with you on that.

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      • April 26, 2019 at 10:02 pm
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        Yes my man has my code to my phone he can enter my phone anytime he wants to

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    • April 4, 2019 at 9:52 pm
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      You better maje sure you’re faithful and hiding something if not it will come to light.

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    • April 11, 2019 at 3:10 am
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      My grandparents were happily married for 73 years. No typo, 73 years. When I asked my grandmother what their secret was she said almost exactly what you just wrote and nothing more

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    • April 14, 2019 at 10:06 am
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      I am sorry but disagree,,I have always put my man first,,and he has cheated,,I just found gmail’s from his ex,,,No one was to walk around smiling when behind your back this is going on,,,And no one man or woman should have a pass code on there phone,,,,just be honest that works best

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      • April 26, 2019 at 9:58 pm
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        Yes my man has my code to my phone he can enter my phone anytime he wants to

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  • March 2, 2019 at 5:49 am
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    Honestly everyone shows different signs same with everything else.

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    • March 6, 2019 at 9:33 am
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      Or your girl is just getting tired of your ass and wants something else to look at. I know I am on my phone a lot but it doesn’t mean I’m cheating on anyone. So ur wrong.

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      • March 26, 2019 at 9:44 am
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        OR She might’ve gotten used to him paying her less attention to her than he did at the beginning of the relationship, if you ask me ROMANCE should be constantly given on both sides at least to show your partner you still care

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      • April 7, 2019 at 11:32 pm
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        Agree. I love playing games on my cell when I am tired watching TV and my man is on the TV.

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    • March 21, 2019 at 2:13 pm
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      I have caught my man cheating with his ex on his phone at least ten times when he would be acting strange. If men do not cheat, they normally have no problems with you using or looking into their phone cuz there isn’t anything to hide.

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    • March 27, 2019 at 4:06 am
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      Definitely.. I’m always on my phone on ebay or studying on appt for school, even silly sites like this. Sometimes really late.. I wonder if this is why my husband thinks I’m cheating all the time because sites like this.. we been together over 10 years so… hopefully longer

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    • April 4, 2019 at 9:55 pm
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      If you’re faithful you have nothing to worry about!

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  • February 27, 2019 at 11:39 pm
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    I knew in my gut before I hired a private investigator to confirm what I already knew about this psycho who to this day claims how he loves me but couldn’t deal with my jealousy. I couldnt deal with the lies, the abuse, the embarrassment so I told him to kick rocks. I told him that we could meet in a public place and I would show him the proof I have. He would still deny though. He left me 4 days after he got out of jail. One week after I was diagnosed with cancer. Actions speak louder than words. I am still hurting but not like i would be if I were around,him

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    • March 10, 2019 at 10:19 pm
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      The same thing happened to me three days after being diagnosed. Sorry, but I can say that I know how you feel.

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    • March 26, 2019 at 9:11 am
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      Amen to tht..Sorry you had to go through that. GLAD YOU ARE RID OF HIM…

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    • April 28, 2019 at 6:29 pm
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      Gyrl I waited for my man for 4 years and he said he didn’t want to Benin a relationship the 2 nd night after he got home
      And we already had been in a relationship for 19 years off and on
      & I’m sorry I’m not letting him go I was 45 now I’m 49 and don’t trust nen and don’t want to start over with someone else
      He has legal problems and needs somewhere to parole and live and he told my son he is his daddy and I’m gonna use all that to my advantage u dam right nothing is over til I want to end it and he shuda let me go years ago instead of keeping me hanging on to try and dump me when he got out
      Too bad for him Everytime he gets scantless on me I kick him out he does some dumb stuff and gets arrested almost Everytime by his own criminal mischeif
      I won’t let him make stupid decisions to do that when he is with me
      I keep him outa trouble and since he don’t have the means to live independent and he knows he needs me I’m using it all to my advantage and he doesn’t have much other choice and by the time he does I’ll have everything in our future so set for us to have $$ and the good life he will take one look and he won’t leave his throne
      Becuz he is my king and I am submissive to him at least 90%
      But I do love him and he loves me he just doesn’t like the fact that he needs me Soo much
      But it is what it is ! So hey wish me luck
      Thanks

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    • May 18, 2019 at 9:36 am
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      Don’t worry Adrianna Mendez, when I was a girl, my father did the same thing to my mom. My mom accused him of cheating. It turns out, he wasn’t. Now, they are happily married for over 43 years. My husband tried to do that, I left him for a couple hours, went to a bar. When I returned, the house looked nice and clean.(cleaner than I left it😃). Don’t be to hard on yourself. I bet you are an awesome wife. Sometimes, if you feel like your husband isn’t listening to you, do what I did and go somewhere for a while until he gets he act together, PLEASE READ. I DON’T KNOW IF ANY OF THIS MAKES SENSE BUT, I HOPE IT DOES. MAY YOUR HUSBAND REALIZE HOW LUCKY HIS IS TO HAVE YOU.🙂 I got your back girl.

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  • February 27, 2019 at 5:38 am
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    Love isn’t all a relationship needs!! 26 yrs old 9 in a half years later and I haven’t the slightest idea of what he’s got going on nowadays.. but I’ll tell you what even though she and I are no longer together as a couple I still love him just as much as the day I fell in love with him if not maybe a little more from being my boyfriend to my best friend tune my only friend to the point to where a best friend and a boyfriend became the roommate after almost 10 years and 9 million mistakes I’m both parts later he and I both whenever anything close to perfect although we do both believe if you don’t have trust honesty respect then you can’t have a relationship it doesn’t only take love and being in love and loving each other tremendously sadly enough that just can’t cut it love is what builds the foundation for the relationship honesty trust respect faithfulness is what builds the relationship

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    • March 1, 2019 at 8:29 pm
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      Well said and so true.

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      • April 30, 2019 at 2:08 am
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        I think all people are capable of cheating when the chance presents itself and you ate certain no one will find out, so you justify it by thinking it will just be a one time fling. Truth is if you get away with it once chances you will do it again. Strange most people who cheat do really love their spouses but crave more excitement. Sad is you always get caught sooner or later and you lose for good the one you love the most. Lust can seem stronger than love of a partner but never does that lust last forever. If your marriage becomes boring its time to do crazy date nights together. Book a hotel room and wear a coat with nothing else on. For you men sweep your woman off her feet like you did when you were trying to get her to fall in lobr with you. Both couples should spruce up and look fabulous for each other just because. I cheated on my husband because he did not pay attention to me and i was still young and beautiful but i really regretted it, i did not know how much i loved him until it was too late. Yep my best friend told on me. My advice dont cheat have crazy sex nights together instead. Use your imagination. I am filled with grief over losing my husband.m

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    • March 8, 2019 at 2:59 pm
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      Porn porn porn Same after 12 years. I couldn’t put my. Finger on what was going on with him drove me crazy trying to figure. Out who and what he was doing i ended up leaving with the kids and never looked backed thanks to GOOGLE web HISTORY I realized he was addicted to porn

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      • March 14, 2019 at 11:00 am
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        Those poor children. Dad isnt around because he watches porn in private. Maybe mommy is just addicted to control….

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        • March 19, 2019 at 11:23 pm
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          WTF! I feel for the young actresses (less for the guys because they are usually Q’s and monogamy is mostly non-existent when ‘CHADs’ ,,, DooDoo whateverTF to EAtCH other!!

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          • March 27, 2019 at 4:07 am
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            Definitely.. it really does depend. I’m always on my phone on ebay or studying on appt for school, even silly sites like this. Sometimes really late.. I wonder if this is why my husband thinks I’m cheating all the time because sites like this.. we been together over 10 years so… hopefully longer

        • April 6, 2019 at 9:59 pm
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          Your comments are not nice. Google sex addict.

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        • April 13, 2019 at 7:21 am
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          Agreed Wow take the kids and never look back over porn smh. Bit insecure maybe

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      • March 15, 2019 at 5:13 am
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        I know what you mean.cant have sex without porn.always on his phone….

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      • March 16, 2019 at 9:20 pm
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        Good for you Holly.
        When a man who wanted to marry someone like dear ole’ mom turns to online porn he’s searching for the dream girl to fulfill his fantasies not be his wife and companion. Be mother to his children and be there till death do us part. This fantasy woman is out of his reach, that’s why he watches them. Trust me that’s one woman he’ll never met.

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      • April 3, 2019 at 5:54 pm
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        How did you find it? I think my hubby is talking to someone but I can check k activity etc it shows android messaging or android contacts and then wish or ali Express or Alibaba or youtube. He gets distracted and smiles or sings to his camera acting like it is for me. If only I were some developer lol

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    • March 8, 2019 at 4:43 pm
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      I understand that i know how u feel

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    • March 15, 2019 at 10:35 pm
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      That was a mouthful of jibber jabber

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    • March 20, 2019 at 5:43 pm
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      Trust and honesty, communication is the key for success!

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      • April 6, 2019 at 4:19 pm
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        Goodness
        I was married for 21 yrs. he got sick w/ cancer—8 months later, I was planning his funeral. AFTER he died—I found out he had a 12 yr affair, son, granbaby..plus COUNTLESS women he f—-d..
        The pain is indescribable. And NO , I didn’t suspect a thing. His family threw me to the curb ASAP.. so idk
        Pay attention?

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        • April 9, 2019 at 12:31 pm
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          Wow that’s really heartbreaking

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      • April 16, 2019 at 3:55 pm
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        My domestic partner left for Italy with a male companion & a married couple when i thought she was at work and bought her lunch. She never apologized and refused too.what will you do

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    • March 21, 2019 at 12:18 am
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      Am ooo wrong to ask my wife to spend just 5 or 10 min with me everyday , when i only get to see her when she comes home before going to bed. She leaves for work before the sun comes up and walks in the door just after nightfall

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      • March 26, 2019 at 9:07 pm
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        Faithful to all of them!

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      • April 9, 2019 at 12:32 pm
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        No your not wrong. That should be a priority

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  • February 27, 2019 at 12:00 am
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    Oh goodness!!! I’m glad I was the 1 to stumble upon this and read it instead of my s.o. 😆
    He’d bee a total wreck after reading this and without a doubt he would KNOW “I’m cheating on him” 😂😂😂😂
    (That was 💯% PURE SARCASM, encase you didn’t catch that)
    All the “signs’, minus the point fingers at him “sign” has got me BUSTED!!!!!! LoL NOT for being a cheater cuz that I am NOT & pray I never hurt and betray another in that way. But all the “SIGNS” that would have me pegged as a CHEATER are the results of ME being cheated on!
    I’m constantly on my phone, ALL damn day EVERY day!
    Sex…….😲😨😱😵 What is that?!?!?!? I could careless if we NEVER had sex again! <—TRUTH
    CLOTHES…..SHOES ETC. I literally take a huge hefty sack full of my clothes and shoes for some homeless women, EVERY Friday evening and drop it off at a lil place know as the "Plazcita" where I live. (It's pretty much like a small park area here)
    Been doing this for about a year now. That's how much "Extra clothing etc." I am accumulating…..more and more.
    Being cheated on by my s.o. destroyed me and changed me so much 😞 before he cheated I was NOT this person. Yes I had a phone and would spend SOME extra time on it (playing Candy Crush), but I spent most my time NOT on my phone. Instead I (we) would be talking to him, taking little walks or laying next to him listening and singing to music. My phone would be else where usualy charging or whatever but NOT in my hand with me wholly engrossed in it & preoccupied with anything & everything that was on the internet. Before being cheated on of course I had clothes! But I never had excess clothing or lived beyond my means not just clothes but with any materialistic possession. Now I'm constantly buying clothes!!! (& not only for me, but friends/family and anyone who has kids or just had 1 😍 and he has no clue about that part of it, so…….shhhhhh lol) idk why im doing it and more and more but it started directly after he cheated and it just makes me feel better…..idk how to explain it, homestly i don't. Cuz its more of a physical feeling in a way then emotional, the feeling i get
    from buying clothes constantly.
    Before I was cheated on I was the complete opposite of these "SIGNS" I do now. When I read the "STRAIGHT FORWARD WAY TO KNOW IF SHE'S CHEATING"
    and started reading all the "SIGNS"…….and was like oooooooh yep yep damn I'm def cheating 😁😁😁 PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE don't read this and jump to any assumptions that your lady IS cheating. Yes she very well could be BUT that is NOT always the case for every female who shows these "SIGNS"……..I KNOW FOR A FACT cuz I am 1 female showing a good 90-95% of the SIGNS and I am NOT being unfaithful to my man nor have I ever been. I wish all of you all the best in your relationships! Idk how but I still have faith that one day, some day I might find a man who will truly love me AND be 💯% faithful….nothing or nobody has yet to give me a reason in almost 4 decades of life to believe or to keep hope that it WILL happen for me….BUT I DO believe and have faith I will 1 day find one of the few good and decent men! Much love to you all, I'm off to bed so have a good night! 💕😴💕 ~Annamaria~

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    • March 4, 2019 at 5:13 pm
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      What a dick he is, i was reading what you wrote, thats weird, i feel like i wrote it , just so weird i talk and feel like that , i was when did i write this i even started thinking f*** when did i write this …lol

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    • March 5, 2019 at 6:17 pm
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      When someone cheats on you it most certainly changes who you are because you always think was it me. But truth be told people cheat because they want to. Not everyone that cheats does it because their partner isn’t fulfilling their sexual needs sometimes it’s just because they can. So take a good look at your relationship before you start doubting yourself. Some men and women think it’s their right to do whatever they want to.

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      • March 14, 2019 at 6:48 pm
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        That is definitely right very true

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      • March 20, 2019 at 5:48 pm
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        Relationships SUCKS! Love SUCKS! Especially when it’s only one sided.

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    • March 7, 2019 at 3:59 pm
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      Annemarie…mg bless you..I feel the same way….I would LOVE. A real relationship…but…burned too many times in freaking scared to throw my heart out there agin….damn it!!!..TUCKER…

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    • March 7, 2019 at 11:02 pm
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      Same here girl, let the shopping commence! I could have wrote this, Thanks for writting, Sorry for the ass that caused you too! I’m in same boat!😢😩

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    • March 9, 2019 at 1:20 am
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      I know how u feel, in my late 20s I gave up on love. I had been married and divorced twice… And engaged twice. And they all cheated on me. I didn’t believe there was a man out there for me. But just when I gave up on finding my true love. There he was. I kept trying to push him away but he didn’t let me. Now I am married to the love of my life and in June we will be married for 18 years. I still love him the way I did when it began maybe more. I know he love’s me to. He has never cheated on me. I love my life with him. He is my best friend and I don’t think I could live without him.

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    • March 11, 2019 at 8:48 am
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      ABSOLUTELY AGREE! Plus you’re funny. Listen to this lady, she is right on.

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    • March 13, 2019 at 2:03 am
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      Please please get yourself into some counseling, you need someone professional to talk to. Both my ex-husband’s cheated on me and I Spiraled out of control so please get yourself some help so you can become the woman you used to be and not the woman that hes making you because he is cheating on you. Getting out of this relationship will be the beginning of your healing, and trust me being single is way better then being with a man that cheats you don’t deserve this ever. You’re a strong and powerful woman and you can do this starting with counseling and getting yourself and your mind healthy because there is nothing wrong with putting you first.

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      • March 15, 2019 at 10:41 pm
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        I totally agree, god bless counseling and meditation

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    • March 15, 2019 at 2:10 am
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      I love it, it’s called retail therapy!
      The only man that you know 100% you can count on and will always be there, is Jesus Christ, until then learn to be content with yourself. Blessings!

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    • April 10, 2019 at 6:32 pm
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      So well said. I am a fellow woman in my 5th decade of life. Whether I’ve cheated or been cheated on, your words took great courage and honesty. Thank you brave, beautiful friend.

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  • February 26, 2019 at 4:24 pm
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    Well in my case it is the opposite and he has changed so much. Plus he always stays away from me and stays up on his phone all night. He expects me to do things he knows I wouldn’t agree too, in sex before in our 12 years of marriage and it was pretty strange coming from him . Another thing he accuses me of cheating on him all the time whwn I’m always home or with the kids . He leaves by himself ,never takes me to his work family parties or never introduces me to any of his friends. So I once looked in his phone when he was drunk and passed out , I was so angry finding so many porn sites and dating sites he had subscribed to with his e-mail address and when I confronted him and told him he denied everything and still has the nerves to blame me . It’s pretty sad and pathetic I say just waisting my time , wish he divorced me instead of playing on me behind my back .

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    • March 2, 2019 at 8:11 am
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      I know your feelings because I too sate those. My husband is the same way.

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      • March 18, 2019 at 12:47 am
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        You know if you not giving him nun he might be on there looking for you because on porn it’s like a see what wife’s do when there husband not home and you got to put your email for everything RNS you can’t be cutting it off like that if you love makes him do extra sh***

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    • March 2, 2019 at 8:47 am
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      I feel so bad for you because my ex husband was doing the same thing and thought i didnt know. Get out of that girl. Mine was a narcissist of 22 yrs. He always had woman around him. Always

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    • March 2, 2019 at 8:50 am
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      It sounds like it’s time to clean your house, sweep out the dust and your husband with It! I am sure it won’t be easy, especially if you have children, but you and your husband are not teaching them anything by
      staying in a loveless marriage. Please consider some changes that will give you a new start, and eventually the happiness you deserve. Good luck!

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    • March 5, 2019 at 10:50 am
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      Oh man I know exactly how U feel. I’m not married but been together for 18 years, and I was debated when I found put about the 1st,2nd and 3rd. And he admitted that when I would question him he would some who turn it around on me, I was floored cause I NEVER realized what he was doing until he told me. Talk about being a fool.

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    • March 10, 2019 at 3:54 pm
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      Well I’m a married single parent. I’ve been married 14 years. We don’t do anything but have sex because he’s barely home. He’s cheated several times before until I’m numb to anything he does or say. I know when he’s cheating and when he’s not, but I still keep my guard up because I really don’t know him anymore. He a married single man that visits his family whenever. He has taught me how to live without him so it’s weird when he’s home versus when he’s not. The kids are use to it and right now, the way things are, works for us. I wouldn’t want it any other way. Just tired of the back and forth. Do you and I’ll do me. Just no screwing other people 🤔🤔 and we’re good. I have my close friends and I’m sure he has his. As long as we respect each other. Because over time while I was being faithful, he was still screwing over me. I’m numb to this whole marriage thing. It’s all about comfort and safety. It works for us. Sometimes that’s all you have.

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      • March 15, 2019 at 10:45 pm
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        He’s certainly is not being faithful

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    • March 16, 2019 at 3:41 am
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      When you have kids you need to realize uf you are showing your kids more attention than your husband. What he is saying is he feels neglected & not # 1 anymore now it’s the kids who are more important. He doesn’t needbto talk about them all the time you two are together but that’s all you probably do. You never initiate sex anymore & that’s the #1 thing your man wants from you. We are visual & want yo touch it & see it like you use to do & let him do. He wants to suggest new sexual acts because he’s trying to get you interested in sex again. Then he goes to porn because that’s way better than cheating. Get this part. He watches porn & yes there’s other naked women but he pictures doing those things to you because he wants you it you that won’t be with him. He see himself either doing those moves on you & to you only (even though he physically can’t because he’s out of shape or whatever reason) or he pictures you & wishes you would do that to him. Get this part you don’t even have to come close to doing what’s on those because he wouldn’t last through it anyway or even need that done. Watching porn together is what you should try or be open to things that spark your sex life. Don’t become boring & use the excuse you never done that before. Who cares you aren’t a virgin & there’s nothing in the sex area that you do together that is off limits. I don’t mean everything as in shitting on each other or pissing in the mouth stuff cause there’s some things that only the strange weird ones get into. But you never know what you may like. Let’s face it every girl I’ve been with didn’t wantbit in the ass until they tried then OMG there’s a whole new woman & she’s the bomb why would he go anywhere else when he’s got more than he can handle with you. Keep him number 1 & get excitement in your marriage whatever way it takes.

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    • March 16, 2019 at 3:42 am
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      When you have kids you need to realize uf you are showing your kids more attention than your husband. What he is saying is he feels neglected & not # 1 anymore now it’s the kids who are more important. He doesn’t needbto talk about them all the time you two are together but that’s all you probably do. You never initiate sex anymore & that’s the #1 thing your man wants from you. We are visual & want yo touch it & see it like you use to do & let him do. He wants to suggest new sexual acts because he’s trying to get you interested in sex again. Then he goes to porn because that’s way better than cheating. Get this part. He watches porn & yes there’s other naked women but he pictures doing those things to you because he wants you it you that won’t be with him. He see himself either doing those moves on you & to you only (even though he physically can’t because he’s out of shape or whatever reason) or he pictures you & wishes you would do that to him. Get this part you don’t even have to come close to doing what’s on those because he wouldn’t last through it anyway or even need that done. Watching porn together is what you should try or be open to things that spark your sex life. Don’t become boring & use the excuse you never done that before. Who cares you aren’t a virgin & there’s nothing in the sex area that you do together that is off limits. I don’t mean everything as in shitting on each other or pissing in the mouth stuff cause there’s some things that only the strange weird ones get into. But you never know what you may like. Let’s face it every girl I’ve been with didn’t wantbit in the ass until they tried then OMG there’s a whole new woman & she’s the bomb why would he go anywhere else when he’s got more than he can handle with you. Keep him number 1 & get excitement in your marriage whatever way it takes.

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  • February 26, 2019 at 10:55 am
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    If 90 percent of men are cheaters 95 percent of women are I mean come on that shitbis sexiest I think if any one cheats in a relationship your just wasting each other’s time and you’re better off just being honest about it life is too short to be unhappy and way too short to be catching STDs so wrap it up fellas

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    • February 26, 2019 at 8:02 pm
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      In every study I just researched it’s actually only about 25 percent of men and 18 percent of women that cheat. Obviously these relationships have problems in one way or another or the cheaters have problems. Attract a different type of person if you keep getting cheated on change your type or it will just keep happening. Been married 27 years and no cheating, no reason to. So disrespectful to a person you claim to love.

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      • March 6, 2019 at 2:37 pm
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        It really is. I dont believe a cheater loves , of you love someone ,you will not cheat, you just wont.

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    • February 26, 2019 at 9:55 pm
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      This is not true. You shouldn’t write an article and generalize. Just because I’m not having sex 3-5 times a week doesn’t mean I don’t love my husband nor that I’m cheating. Shallow article and anyone who uses this as guide on partner is lost.

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    • March 6, 2019 at 8:16 am
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      How do i know my fiance is cheating. I am a female?

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      • March 17, 2019 at 4:19 pm
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        If you have to ask, you already know. Trust yourself. You know how he talks to women vs how he talks to buddies. You know the things he would or wouldn’t do. You know. You deserve so much better. Happiness is something you give to yourself, not something your partner gives you. A relationship / marriage is not 50/50, it is 100/100.

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  • February 25, 2019 at 2:26 am
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    TRUE LOVE NEVER DIES…

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    • February 27, 2019 at 4:57 pm
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      I already know when someone is cheating

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  • February 25, 2019 at 1:55 am
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    I hope my man will feel this way. I miss you. Can’t wait until you return.

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  • February 25, 2019 at 12:22 am
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    Bad idea… Sometimes absent doesnt make the heart fonder. Sometimes it means “out of sight…out of mind”???

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  • February 24, 2019 at 12:57 am
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    One love.ONLY LOVE…never dies.
    Only grows restless…

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  • February 16, 2019 at 8:07 pm
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    Accept a person and their imperfections if you care about them more than you dislike some of the mistaks we make as we learn and grow. One Love

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    • February 22, 2019 at 8:52 am
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      I like that that was much needed

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    • March 9, 2019 at 1:51 am
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      This hit my heart very very hard when u know someone have a other woman but u still stay marriage or not it’s not good at all we should love and care adout are bodies and start 🙏 more because we all have felt short . men and women both been cheater on or cheating one too it’s both sides to the story’s

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  • February 15, 2019 at 12:30 am
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    I’m sorry, but I’m having a hard time believing that 90% of men are cheaters. Is that a biased opinion or something? Have you been cheated on and now hold a grudge? I can’t speak for the rest of the men out there, but a commitment to someone is important to me and I BELIEVE that to be true to alot of men out there! Yes, men cheat, but believe me when I say that it’s definitely a two way street!

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    • February 18, 2019 at 10:08 pm
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      90% of men ARE cheaters, Thats an understatement. If you are among that 10%of men that remain faithfulthen you are of the minority of men who are a blessing from God. Every man i have been with took all they could and continue to do so.

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      • February 20, 2019 at 10:40 am
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        In life both good and bad things happen to us all, but our re-action dictates the outcome. We need to educate our minds and train our emotions! What we think we become and what we feel we attract!

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        • February 20, 2019 at 5:24 pm
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          That frase just made my day …🤸

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        • February 22, 2019 at 8:48 am
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          I love your comment man like you’re so right there is a two way streak. Yes I have cheated on my girl but I came forward and just told her everything and now I just want to be with with her and then the knot. Sometimes it takes for cheating for you to realize that you need to do better and don’t make the same mistake no more. Like you said you can’t speak for everyone but that’s true that’s how alot of people are together now days because it took for one of them to go out and do wrong and almost lost there love and now they realize that’s not What they What they wants.youre so right

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          • February 23, 2019 at 9:12 am
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            How would feel or react if the girlfriend or wife cheated on you and openly admit it. Would you be so understanding?

          • February 25, 2019 at 12:30 am
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            Thank God you realized your girls worth. ❤

          • April 24, 2019 at 10:53 pm
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            I caught my bf talking to different girls on a chat site n now he says he loves me and he knows he mess up so now I’m thinking hes doing something ,he tells me to go threw his phone and nothing is it me like dame I’m a good woman to him do I continue with this relationship after 5 yrs .

      • February 21, 2019 at 3:10 pm
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        Because you let them. Its your first approach and bam…they know your easy.

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      • February 24, 2019 at 12:08 pm
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        90% is high , why is that?

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      • February 25, 2019 at 11:50 am
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        your messing with the wrong guys,to find true love look for the very opposite of what you would normally go for i mean a complete 180

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      • February 25, 2019 at 4:54 pm
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        Not meant for u….
        Don’t be bitter,
        Enjoy, Something very negative has just left ur life…
        Knowing this, Smile, stay positive!!
        The universe hates a vacuum…
        It will be filled!!
        But, like a child, you have to give full attention to attract only goodness, kindness, discernment and temperance.
        Your child is needy…
        And will except negative or positive attention.
        It is your choice…
        Miracles and Blessings

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      • February 26, 2019 at 11:45 pm
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        If you truly believe that 90 percent of men are cheaters, then you’re hanging out with the wrong men.

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    • February 28, 2019 at 7:16 pm
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      That is absolutely 100% true I love what you say it

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  • February 14, 2019 at 4:38 pm
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    They say that if you aren’t having sex that means she is cheating. Well it can go the other way as well. If she is wanting to have sex more and seems to want to do different things she may be cheating as well. My last cheating experience she was caught cheating and our sex life was the same amount. I agreed to try and work it out. For 2 months she wanted sex all the time and cooked and cleaned all the time. I thought this to be weird but was just thinking she was trying to make up for breaking my heart. Turns out she was still seeing that person. So… I guess when they start doing things way out of their character then something’s up.

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  • February 13, 2019 at 11:16 pm
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    Well people unconditional love will help u understand that experience lesson. Teaching how ever you want to put it make you seek with clarity your true love b bless to hopefully more than once in your life time😁

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    • February 15, 2019 at 1:00 am
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      And when it backfires on u ? What do u do then ? Was it worth it?

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      • February 19, 2019 at 3:46 pm
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        It’s never worth it I lost a beautiful woman because I was a idiot

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        • February 22, 2019 at 9:01 am
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          Work it out don’t never give up. You had time to mess it up, now have time to make it up

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        • February 23, 2019 at 7:04 am
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          Same here man. My kids mother tried everything to keep our relationship but I was to young to understand. So I won’t be repeat that mistake

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      • February 22, 2019 at 8:59 am
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        No it wasnt worth it because I’m going thru it right now and I was the one who cheated. It hurts like hell but all it is doing is making me realize how much of a fool and how stupid I was. And I told her everything and now after all I feel good that got it all out of me and now i can make up for all of my wrongs and I know it’s going to take some time but anything just to make my relationship back happy and being happy I’m all for it.

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    • February 22, 2019 at 8:54 am
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      I like that

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  • February 11, 2019 at 1:21 am
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    Keep people in your life that truly; love you, motivate you, encourage you, inspire you, enhance you, and make you happy. If you have people who do none of this, let them go.

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    • March 1, 2019 at 2:52 pm
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      I’m in a situation that has nothing to do with cheating. Been with this man for almost 16 years. We have not had sex for over 2 years.

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    • March 10, 2019 at 4:03 pm
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      Exactly. After 20 years of going back and forth with each other. We wouldn’t be able to make it without each other. So, through all the cheating, leaving, arguing and separation. There’s really nothing else for us to do but stay married
      Not together, married. We love each other to death but space is a beautiful thing. Wouldn’t trade it for the world.

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  • February 10, 2019 at 12:40 pm
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    What if your boyfriend is always accusing u of having sex with someone else. And what if he wont cut ties with his babys mama even if she dont have the kids. I say there is no reason for him to talk to her cause she dont have the kids.

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  • February 8, 2019 at 7:31 pm
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    Yes I agree with you I have been married twice and divorced because of cheating some women it does not matter how much money you make how nice your house is how well you take care of them it is just in their make up it is in there person to do that I hate people that lie steal and cheat

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    • February 10, 2019 at 5:14 pm
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      I hate that there a women out there that have good faithful men and screw it up for the rest of us that are looking for good men. It truly means me sad that this happens. I’m attractive and in my early 50″s and still have not ran into one of those guys been.. but I refuse to believe that all men are jerks. And reading your statement proves that. I hope you find a great women…

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      • March 1, 2019 at 11:14 pm
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        Ok I’ll agree with you on the subject and I’m married and have a beautiful wife. what I don’t understand is the time it takes to heal wounds that hurt the relationship.

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      • March 22, 2019 at 12:41 am
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        Don’t worry sweetie. There are good guys out there I promise. I know this cause I’m one of them. I’m 36 and I’ve had 4 real serious relationships in my life and I’ve been with lots of women in between those relationships. I’ve been cheated on numerous times, but at least I can proudly say that I have never cheated ever in my life and never will do so. The woman that trying so hard to keep is the same way as me, but because of my insecurities I pushed her away. Now I’m working hard to show her that we are meant for each other and that I want no one else but her. She has 2 kids. Her 14 year old boy does not live with her, but her 4 year old daughter does. I totally adore her daughter and all I wnt is to build a life for us together as a family.

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    • February 11, 2019 at 1:28 am
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      Keep people in your life that truly; love you, motivate you, encourage you, inspire you, enhance you, and make you happy. If you have people who do none of this, let them go.

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      • February 17, 2019 at 7:28 am
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        Keristen KK .. Why did you let him go he loves yiu i can feel that deep in my gut. You need to go back. Hes the one

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      • February 17, 2019 at 7:30 am
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        Keristen hes the one . did or are you cheating on him i can fell something with you is not right. Go back to him

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    • February 21, 2019 at 11:39 am
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      At the same time when you go throigh divorce and have kids. Both parents usually want to see there kids. Them has to be some king of relationship with the mother or father. For the kids sake

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  • February 8, 2019 at 5:01 am
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    yes if he or she is inconsistent in their actions and words , you know if they are indecisive every other day, then their loyalty may have been compromised as well as sudden insecurity. at all. Those are some signs to watch out for. best of luck to all!

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  • February 6, 2019 at 5:33 am
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    I agree if the parter is not in your everyday life physically there is no true relationship.

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    • February 9, 2019 at 7:20 am
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      If the handyman takes a whole week to do a 2 hour repair job, she might be cheating.

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    • February 12, 2019 at 8:20 am
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      I agree. That’s how my so called relationship is . Haven’t heard from him for 2 days now. I’m out. I don’t deserve to be egnored.! It’s over! He did what I figured he would do. His lose!

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      • February 22, 2019 at 9:09 am
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        Dont give up so fast. Listen yes i cheated on my girl but I poured my heart out to her and told her everything and now imnready to marry her. But where im trying to get to is dont jump into conclusions if you don’t know what’s going on. He might being trying to give you or his self time maybe for the best because I haven’t been calling mines but I think of her like crazy. Sometimes it good to miss each other

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  • February 5, 2019 at 10:07 pm
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    I think this site is cute…
    However, do you really want to know if he/she is cheating?
    If so perhaps your self-conscious.
    Perhaps you are the one who wants to.
    Could it be that, oh yes I am going to say it, 90% of ALL men cheat at one time or another in a lifetime. I am not quite sure of the population percentile for women though.
    So, if it is happening to you, get over it or move onto a better partner. There are 100’s of thousands of people to make new memories with that do not upset you in some tiny irritable way and then yes, there is something called true love. Although you won’t find it if you hang around with some one who is cheating on you!

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    • February 7, 2019 at 4:42 pm
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      Well I don’t know I mean I’m 41 years old and I have never cheated on a woman. So I can be a gigolo when I’m single, I have no part in cheating on people or being part of that whole charade. There are good dudes in there are Bad Dudes there are good ladies in there a bad ladies. Don’t ask me what defines bad, I am no judge, but I don’t think it matters what sex we’re talking about.

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      • February 9, 2019 at 1:14 pm
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        Absolutely right. Both do it.

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      • February 9, 2019 at 3:50 pm
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        Amen, Took the words straight out of my mouth!

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      • February 11, 2019 at 1:56 am
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        U have to at least communicate, whether u can be in anothers presence every day. Trust is another main understanding u earn from your spouse. Major issue for couples who have betrayal complex for 1 of them fooled around & caught up in the easiness of responsibilities being all on actual spouse & a simple x-tra task for u just informed u have work late; take grandparent shopping; or sick family mem out of town & it u’re turn to drive or stay overnight. Best is, ” i lost bank card again & our funds are short. Please honey, u gotta help me make it up so not overfee’s!

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      • February 24, 2019 at 12:13 pm
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        Do you have kids.

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  • February 4, 2019 at 6:13 pm
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    I went through. Another people came out and told me that’s why I stopped bothering

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  • February 4, 2019 at 12:56 am
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    My ex hit three out of four and still to this day she denys that she has ever cheated but that phone never stopped and was glued to her as well ignored me for hours on in and she was a stay at home mom I supported her and 6 kids which yes me and her had one together but now that I’m no longer with her it’s like I’m the bad guy because I go to work and come home I don’t party I don’t have many friends and she was always quick to try and make me the bad guy for everything and she acted like she never does anything wrong like hiding another Man’s clothing under my bed that me and her shared

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    • February 7, 2019 at 11:36 am
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      Greg, I know how much that kinda shit can hurt your soul. It can break you in half on the inside. But there are women out there that will return your loyalty. So it’s important that you heal from that past damage, and give love another try. We need every decent guy out there participating in (hopefully) a healthy relationship.
      As a woman I can tell you that it isn’t easy to stay the course sometimes. Woman still out number men. And as a result a horrible patterne along has come to life and taken over. Men no longer feel like they have to be gentlemanly, or behave in a proper manner. Because they are all too aware that no matter what they do, another chic will be along in 30 minutes, so for them it’s become being available for the next hour potential, and not about their own behavior. But when you have a seriously abusive partner telling you that he treats you so good, and that u are the one who’s the problem, ITS CLEAR THAT SOMETHING HAS GONE TERRIBLY WRONG.
      The thing is, u sound like a decent guy, and u deserve someone who treats you at least as good as u treat them. There are faithful women out there. And as hard as it is to believe I know there are flights men, you are proof of that. So please, don’t let one dumb ass who clearly wasn’t thinking straight, ruin you and take away your shot at love and happiness. Doing the right thing does pay off. But sometimes you have to fight your way thru hell to get it.
      Instead of focusing on how she did u wrong, focus on all the positive things that you still have to give. Keep the faith bro. Find (or fight ifneccesary) your way back to love. Love is everything!

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      • February 10, 2019 at 1:50 pm
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        There are more men than women in the world currently.
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        Most women do not cheat.
        At least half of men do cheat, or more.
        Most women that do cheat, do so because they have been cheated on.

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      • February 22, 2019 at 9:14 am
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        Man you water my eyes on this one lol but you said some real shit

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  • February 3, 2019 at 9:01 am
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    FOUR CLUES OF INFIDELITY FOR CHRISTIANS: (mostly about men)
    1. Stops Attending church or avoids contact with other christians (Gen.3.8)
    2. Financial Problems , business failures ( Prov.6.26, Mal 2.13 )
    3. Mental Instability , Double minded : “I don’t want you to work / If you’d get a job. we wouldn’t be having these financial issues”( James 1.7&8, Titus 3.10&11)
    4. Blame others , no personal responsibility, everybody/everything has conspired against him. Gen 3:12-13
    5. I would add to that if he is buying fancy stuff for his secratary /associate but not for his wife.

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    • February 8, 2019 at 5:53 pm
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      I’m not buying your reasons. These are not necessarily signs of infidelity.

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    • February 28, 2019 at 2:47 am
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      Love your response – + I would add that if he is giving other or another woman gifts of Any kind or ‘size’, but not you?!?.. He may as well be cheating bcuz if he isn’t – he’s trying to b!!

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  • February 3, 2019 at 12:42 am
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    Yessir. You have to learn to “read the signs” as my ex-wife told me. Never mind the fact that actual honesty would work better. But then the cheater would be exposed as a morally bankrupt individual. That will never happen

    It’s FAR more likely to be a situation where the cheater provokes YOU into an argument or fight. This will be their “exit-excuse”. There will be no actual honesty. Don’t expect any. Their a cheater. Cheaters aren’t honest. That’s why they cheat. Be careful whom you choose to marry. Character assessment is of PARAMOUNT IMPORTANCE. You can NOT go wrong here. Looks are COMPLETELY WORTHLESS in a woman. Except looking at her mother. That will tell you ALL you need to know about where your marriage is headed. I can say that in the words of the great Whitney Houston, “I learned from the best”. A woman who can’t so much as make a simple damn cake managed to ruin my marriage and family, thusly my life. Willfully, with malice & forethought. That’s some incredible shit.

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    • February 23, 2019 at 4:41 pm
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      *She* ruined your marriage? What, did she put a gun to your head. If I gave in, every time a guy tried to seduce me, it’d be a daily event. You’re the weak one who caved. Accept the blame for *your own* mistakes, and change if you really want to. geez

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  • February 2, 2019 at 9:22 am
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    Love does not hurt period!..A women knows when her man is cheating because our intuition let us know…Men are dumb because they don’t really know how to cheat…

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    • February 7, 2019 at 4:46 pm
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      Come on I’ll be nice. My ex had an intuition that I was cheating on her and she was wrong. It turned out who her intuition was her self-consciousness telling on her because she was the one that was stepping out on the side.

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  • January 17, 2019 at 8:58 pm
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    At least I know that I’m not cheating; the real question is how do you know if your boyfriend is cheating on you based on the way he treats you so badly every other day?

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    • February 7, 2019 at 11:55 am
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      Heidi if you are in an abusive relationship the only thing you should be doing is GETTING OUT. Abuse breaks you in such a way, by the time u realize you are sick, you will have missed the fact that you had perfectly good legs attached in which to run away on. So there u will be, sick and broken and empty and without hope. Does that sound like a road you want to have right your way back from. And abuse goes both ways. The longer you are abused the odds are the more likely you will become abusive yourself. If your partner is a di**, run for your life while u still are in one piece. You’ll be happy you did.
      Also, years back I read somewhere that everyone has some degree of built in intuition. And that for the most part, we DO KNOW when we are being lied to. The thing is, people need to process their situations. So while we know they are lying, until we’ve processed it, and accepted it, it is only then that we can take the next step. Ive found since then, that there is a lot of truth to this. As a matter of fact, it appears to be exactly right.
      Don’t settle for less than. And please don’t settle for a partner that abuses you. We are all connected somehow, somewhere down the line. And one person can make a difference. You, like Phil, deserve love. Settle for nothing less than love! U won’t regret it, I swear!😉🤗

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      • February 15, 2019 at 8:43 pm
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        Phill is he in this too?? Awe man that break s my heart even more

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  • December 18, 2018 at 10:48 am
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    Well I’ll be damn’ed. If I didn’t know better I would have sworn that the one and only I thought that I had was the one to write this post !! Wow all of her actions exactly until the end of what I thought was the life I was going to have !!! boy was I fucking blind

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  • December 15, 2018 at 3:08 pm
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    Kinda funny that my husband can say these are all factors in our relationship, but I haven’t cheated I started a new job and I have to dress professionally where before, I wore uniform. I am always on my phone, 80% of the time I’m on my games or checking my emails for the job. Rarely do i talk to anyone. And do i point the finger at him, hell yes i do. Because he does things such as staying gone all night long, hiding what he is doing, and lying about his female friends. I ONLY point it when I know for a FACT HE IS doing it. So….sounds like in some situations these reasons and things are dead wrong!
    Thanks

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    • February 5, 2019 at 8:48 pm
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      I’m sorry but 80% of your time is on your phone! WOW! I can only speak for myself but I would be extremely bored and feeling unwanted in my relationship if someone did that to me. I definitely wouldn’t be in a rush to get home so I could be mostly ignored.

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      • February 27, 2019 at 12:58 pm
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        So true on this remark but some men and women take advantage of the fact that relationship will be better by being honest that a door that is open for them to keep doing what they are doing because they have been honest with you the cheating no stops anytime your mate have to go outside or take the phone in the shower with them to talk on the phone phone or when you walk up on them first thing they will say man or girl let me call you later not knowing you have practically heard the whole conversation and heard the other party voice on the phone. My thought about the whole thing don’t make yourself and your mate miserable just leave and go to the one you are cheating with believe me KARMA is a BITCH if they cheated on their mate with you what makes you any better you are going to be cheated on the same way grow up people life is too short to be trying to cheat on some one look into the mirror at yourself and ask if it was you being cheated on could you handle it if you find out Men and women stop disrespecting your relationship like that. Some do it out of anger some hearts are going to be broken when you realize that not what you want if sex is what you want hell go to the Toy Store believe me it’s better than going out of your relationship you hearts would not be broken only way I can get that way if the batteries go out just keep some extra ones go for both men and women

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          • March 10, 2019 at 12:28 am
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            My bf of 3 yrs does most on list and other things mentioned on here, yet denies ever being a cheater and either calls me insecure, saying I’m accusing him of be again, or turns it on me saying I must be feeling guilty and that’s why I blame HIM (which is definitely NOT true at ALL!!) I’ve never been insecure or a cheater ever in my life, however, he is actually the reason I sometimes feel insecure in THIS relationship.. he spends every single moment on his cellphone, but mostly playing games on it, even while he drives us around!! I get so incredibly mad, but there is no point bc he won’t stop no matter what… Thanks for posting the good comments and insight on this!!

  • December 11, 2018 at 9:55 pm
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    What if your partner is in another country, will it still work?

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    • February 2, 2019 at 11:14 am
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      In my experience, no. I had a girlfriend who lived in France and I live in Texas. I wanted to text with her everyday but she stopped replying. Unless y’all are physically together it’s not gonna work. Long-distance relationships will eventually result in someone cheating. I had to realize that I was wasting my time on someone I could never be with. I wrote her an email last night explaining my thoughts and I don’t expect her to answer. It’s a shame because there may be someone in a different country that could really connect with you. But it’s like “star-crossed lovers.” It didn’t work out for Romeo and Juliet, even though they were madly in love. But it’s also better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all. If you’re in a relationship with someone in another country, one of you needs to move. Otherwise there’s no way. It’s better to cut your loses and end it with some trace of dignity.

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      • February 11, 2019 at 8:52 pm
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        To say a long distance relationship will not work is not always true. You are basing this on your personal experience, just as I say, it can and does work, from which I am also saying from experience. Myself an American and my wife an Filipino. We have been married 2 1/2 years. I have done been to her country to see her, 4 times already, staying the allowable 30 days each time. Have been petitioning for her with immigration for past year and half, to bring her here in the USA. But out love is genuine and has not faltered. It is strong ,true, and continues to grow. I will say an overseas relationship is very hard, and takes commitment, honesty, and lots of work,and also with,”A Little Help From God “!

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    • February 4, 2019 at 5:42 pm
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      perhaps stop cyber dating

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  • December 8, 2018 at 12:39 pm
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    If you are paying to spy on your partner…Then it really doesn’t matter what you find. You are not in a healthy relationship. You can actually be with someone and know whole heartedly that they would never do that to us. And if you don’t feel that way about your partner, then you need to find one you can.

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