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Trust is something that we all know as the glue to a relationship. If you want a healthy and intimate relationship, trust is needed. But what exactly is trust?
The reason is, trust in the context of a loving relationship is a lot different than the trust between two friends or a brother and sister or a parent and their kid. Trust between partners is an underlying belief that you can relay consistently on someone.
It’s for this reason if your partner is showing up late consistently to a date that you two plan in advance, it makes sense that you would be upset. That person is slowly eroding your trust due to their lack of time.
At the same time, if your partner is reliably taking out the trash every Monday with no issues, you can develop a deeper level of trust in them. They are dependable.
With this in mind, regardless of if you are in a fantastic relationship or one that is slowly falling apart, here are some trust building activities that can boost comfort, but can also strengthen relationships that were crumbling before.
The first activity that comes to mind is having a specific time to connect with one another. It’s a time of tenderness. It can be for 20 minutes, 10 minutes, or even a half hour. Either way, these moments of tenderness are simply exercises in physically connecting with one another. No, this doesn’t involve sex, but a form of tenderness that leaves you both comfortable. This is a good exercise as it leads to the other activities we will be talking about.
The second thing is to come clean with certain things. Just like with any other relationship there will be small things that will start to pile up over time. Perhaps you forgot to wash the dishes or take out the trash. Perhaps you said something and didn’t mean it in that way. These little things add up and can lead to full-blown arguments over time. You can avoid it by, ideally after a few tender moments, talk and share some of these past wrongdoings. The idea here is to admit them and that you are sorry for them. You want to own the stuff.
From there you can get into some deeper stuff. One activity that comes to mind is sharing a big scary secret. Perhaps it’s something that you never told someone else. Either way, it’s something that should leave you vulnerable. Of course, this type of activity is ideal in relationships that have lasted for a good amount of time. Aside from that, what could be fitting for any relationship is sharing some of the more amazing or transformative moments you’ve had in the past few months.
The fourth activity is more like a habit than anything else and that is to always follow through with the details. In this case, you want to be building trust so share some more details. If you are holding back it means you are lacking trust in that person that they can keep that secret. On the other hand, some other ways to help grow trust is figure out what sort of things do they value. Is your partner someone who likes a clean house or likes to cook with someone? By sharing the details of what they enjoy and what you can do to make them feel cared for builds more trust and dependability.
The last activity is an actual game this time and it’s a fun one. It’s called the gratitude game. This game helps a lot because in a lot of relationships the lack of trust may stem from the fact they feel abandoned, left out, or rejected. It’s childhood type of emotions for sure, and they can linger around as adults. As a result, one way you can build trust amongst you and your partner is to play this game. The rules are simple, you basically take turns to remind one another what you love about one another. Whether it’s their smile, how they smell, their own personality, provide 10 things that you love about your partner. Or you can throw caution to the wind and keep going until the two of you have had enough.