You’ll Never Believe What Can Make You Fall in Love

Some people fall in love because of someone’s looks, or how someone makes them feel. Many people say they fall in love at first sight, but this isn’t exactly what they were talking about. According to scientists, eye contact can make you fall in love.

A research study dating back to 1989 conducted by psychologist Arthur Aron proves this fact. He made people sit opposite one another, staring into each other’s eyes and asking a series of questions. They were asked to stare into each other’s eyes for four minutes while those questions were being asked. So what happened after the study? After few days, one of those couples got married and invited the entire crew who participated in the experiment.

This study has been getting a lot of attention the last few years, ever since the NYT covered it in its newspaper along with the “36 Questions that Lead to Love.” A few examples include “What would constitute a “perfect” day for you?”, “If you were going to become a close friend with your partner, please share what would be important for him or her to know.” , “Name three things you and your partner appear to have in common.”, and “Take four minutes and tell your partner your life story in as much detail as possible.”

Additional research confirms that eye contact is a dominant stimulator of love and affection. Direct eye contact increases the production of a chemical called phenylethylamine. This has been dubbed the “happy hormone”, and influences the production of dopamine and serotonin. How does this happen?

A Japanese study indicates that eye contact actually makes the brain activity between two people start to sync up…which is why when you’re looking deeply into someone’s eyes you start to feel like you’re getting “lost”. 90 people were paired up had their brain activity scanned using an MRI. The study found that people coordinated their blinking and excited part of the brain that impacts inhibition. The outcome indicates that a related eye contact coerces two people into a particular hooked up system.

So, if you want the secret to long-lasting love, or to get someone to fall in love with you, get them to look deeply into your eyes…and hold it. This will make you feel closer than ever, and fall in love all over again (or for the first time!)

12 thoughts on “You’ll Never Believe What Can Make You Fall in Love

  • February 1, 2019 at 11:40 pm
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    Comments were to negative for my taste and state of being, presently.

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  • January 10, 2019 at 12:37 pm
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    I stare into my girlfriends eyes all the time and at first she would say what are you looking at, or what? But, she quickly started to say she loves me within one month of dating when she said she has only said that to one other man and she is 47 years old. Ohh, and she is hot!! 🙂 Lol We are already talking about a life together after only a little over two months. I am going to talk to her about Arthur Aron’s work.

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  • July 24, 2018 at 11:42 am
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    If you think about it, it can be pretty dangerous to just fall in love with sight, ignoring all the cringy things really going on with the person. Be careful, guys.

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  • July 12, 2018 at 7:41 pm
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    Everyone in my group makes fun of me for liking this guy so quickly, but love just works like that.

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  • June 22, 2018 at 3:46 pm
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    These are just weak! And they’re confusing it with just wanting sex. Like my ex-husband would be in love with the whore he left me for.

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  • June 3, 2018 at 8:09 pm
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    This all must be lies! It cannot be possible! People just fall for looks. It’s all superficial!

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  • May 11, 2018 at 10:56 pm
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    my hubby and i stare deeply into eachothers eyes and i can tell were connected its almost like i can read his thoughts and he can read mine GOD is GOOD

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  • May 10, 2018 at 1:14 am
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    Dont just start staring into someones eyes like this without them knowing or they’re going to be real creeped out!!!!!!!

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  • May 10, 2018 at 1:29 pm
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    someone should show this to the Donald and Melania lol

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  • May 10, 2018 at 2:09 am
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    Don’t you have to actually like the person first? Like do you think anyone can do this at all and they’ll jsut fall i love?

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  • May 9, 2018 at 11:21 am
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    this makes total sense!!! read the questions they asked and its basically just you getting to know the other person while lookin n their eyes. im trying it on my next date lol

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    • August 24, 2018 at 6:34 am
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      This short blog piece doesn’t really explain Arthur Aron’s work. His original intent was to find a way for people to quickly fall in love so that he would have easier access to test subjects for his main work. He developed the process that the NTY article refers to as the 36 Questions that Lead to Love. The questions as well as the entire activity is very specifically designed. Partners alternate reading the question and both answer. They eventually get much more personal, but along the way there are questions intended to force the pair to see commonalities between them (Name three things you and your partner seem to have in common) and to identify positive traits in the other person. After the questions are finished the pair stare into each other’s eyes for four minutes. At first it is frightening but after the first minute or so you start to really see them and by the 4th minute you sense a deep connection with them and can feel them seeing you as well.

      I was on a dating site for a while and one of the women I was chatting with agreed to try this on our first date. It works. Yes, you have to be willing to let it work and all that, but 6 months later we have a wonderful, strong relationship filled with the honesty that neither of us had in our previous marriage, and right out of the gate our first dates felt more like spending time with someone we had known for a while, not just a few weeks.

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