You’ll Never Believe What Can Make You Fall in Love
Some people fall in love because of someone’s looks, or how someone makes them feel. Many people say they fall in love at first sight, but this isn’t exactly what they were talking about. According to scientists, eye contact can make you fall in love.
A research study dating back to 1989 conducted by psychologist Arthur Aron proves this fact. He made people sit opposite one another, staring into each other’s eyes and asking a series of questions. They were asked to stare into each other’s eyes for four minutes while those questions were being asked. So what happened after the study? After few days, one of those couples got married and invited the entire crew who participated in the experiment.
This study has been getting a lot of attention the last few years, ever since the NYT covered it in its newspaper along with the “36 Questions that Lead to Love.” A few examples include “What would constitute a “perfect” day for you?”, “If you were going to become a close friend with your partner, please share what would be important for him or her to know.” , “Name three things you and your partner appear to have in common.”, and “Take four minutes and tell your partner your life story in as much detail as possible.”
Additional research confirms that eye contact is a dominant stimulator of love and affection. Direct eye contact increases the production of a chemical called phenylethylamine. This has been dubbed the “happy hormone”, and influences the production of dopamine and serotonin. How does this happen?
A Japanese study indicates that eye contact actually makes the brain activity between two people start to sync up…which is why when you’re looking deeply into someone’s eyes you start to feel like you’re getting “lost”. 90 people were paired up had their brain activity scanned using an MRI. The study found that people coordinated their blinking and excited part of the brain that impacts inhibition. The outcome indicates that a related eye contact coerces two people into a particular hooked up system.
So, if you want the secret to long-lasting love, or to get someone to fall in love with you, get them to look deeply into your eyes…and hold it. This will make you feel closer than ever, and fall in love all over again (or for the first time!)
I am in a relationship almost 3 months, and I never heard of this staring in the eyes. My love is a gentleman like no man I have ever met. We connect unlike any Male I have ever known. We are connected through, spiritual, emotional, mind, body, and soul. We have been together without sex, and it’s been great. We are great friends and lovers, without making love.. So when we do make love it will only be better. Appreciation, Respect, and Communication with your spouse or significant other makes the relationship fun and loving💖
This works, I am in a relationship almost 3 months, and I never heard of this staring in the eyes. My love is a gentleman like no man I have ever met. We connect unlike any Male I have ever known. We are connected through, spiritual, emotional, mind, body, and soul. We have been together without sex, and it’s been great. We are great friends and lovers, without making love.. So when we do make love it will only be better. Appreciation, Respect, and Communication with your spouse or significant other makes the relationship fun and loving💖
I met my boyfriend 18 yrs. ago n were still together n now were talking about getting married n getting a house together. Hes strictly honest with me as i with him. N we do alot of things together. Im 67 n hes 75 but he still has it going on n i deeply love him like he loves me. Hes my soul mate n im his. Forever love.
its true i was his eyes
back in 1983.. met the boy next door who had the most mezmerizing blue eyes. We used to stare into each others eyes for long gazes. He wound up being my 1st true love however I was only 14. here it is 34 years later and we just reunited 6 months ago! I believe it to be true! thanks for posting this!
hi and congratulations at contingency other again I’m 35 now and when I was 12 I went out with a lad who I thought was everything I ended up pregnant to him at 14 he was a year older he cheated on me and we split a couple months later we tried again he cheated again then yesterday all of a sudden I had a friend request on Facebook from him I accepted to see what he had to say he told me he wished he’d of done things different he was young he’s sorry and that he wished I’d of stayed with him he seemed genuine but need advice do I give it another go it’s been 21years since we was last together he left when we split and he said he’d never of left if I’d of stayed with him I’m in two minds what to do maybe it’s true my first love maybe he is my soul mate but could I ever trust him please help I’m in such a mess over it all I do no one thing my heart is pounding at seeing his picture and talking to him again and even writing this thinking of him my heart is beating so fast do you believe it could work I’m one that is in it for life not just a few weeks months or years I want a life long partner soul mate lover but most of all best friend xx thank you for listening to me please anyone help x
Comments were to negative for my taste and state of being, presently.
I stare into my girlfriends eyes all the time and at first she would say what are you looking at, or what? But, she quickly started to say she loves me within one month of dating when she said she has only said that to one other man and she is 47 years old. Ohh, and she is hot!! 🙂 Lol We are already talking about a life together after only a little over two months. I am going to talk to her about Arthur Aron’s work.
I did this with boyfriend and yes this is true
I met my girlfriend only two weeks ago and that’s the first thing I noticed about her,her piercing blue eyes I can stare at her for hours she just does it for me I love her eyes and only after a weeks time maybe a little less did I know that I love her so I would have to agree her eyes are the window to her soul..
Beware the man who keeps his eyes shut during sex.
Why is that??
If you think about it, it can be pretty dangerous to just fall in love with sight, ignoring all the cringy things really going on with the person. Be careful, guys.
My ex fell for me so I thought. He only did it because his true love was my BFF(who’s no longer part of my friendship group. I really thought he loved me but he never wanted to stay by my side physically. My dad took him to the mall and he escaped every few minutes. I knew I was being cheated on but I didn’t think anything of it because he acted so innocent so the stupid person I was back then stayed with him until I got a phone call from him saying that there was someone else he loved and we ended our year and a half relationship that day😢
Thats why i just ended my relationship. Pretty much told me “Hey i wanna do other people” so despite everything i stayed because i did love him. Now we dont talk at all. He’s gone at my behest. Was the right choice though.
I can tell you my thought. I like to see what’s going on. I want to study and admire my woman’s body. Especially in the beginning. I don’t want it so dark I can’t see her unless it’s a late night hookup that I’m ashamed of. That’s the only reason I would think a man would close his eyes is because he’s thinking of something or somebody else which means he isn’t into her.
Everyone in my group makes fun of me for liking this guy so quickly, but love just works like that.
These are just weak! And they’re confusing it with just wanting sex. Like my ex-husband would be in love with the whore he left me for.
Ik the feeling hun trust me. It hurts my ex I was with for 4 yrs she cheated on me with my best friend. Like I walked in on them
This all must be lies! It cannot be possible! People just fall for looks. It’s all superficial!
Not true I fall in love with the man not the appearance . take my husband for example everyone says I can do so much better and I’m too attractive to be with him and when I met him I probably thought this was true too. Fast forward a few years and we are married happier then ever and I think he’s the most handsome man I’ve ever met. Once you fall in love with the person the looks fall in line as well.
my hubby and i stare deeply into eachothers eyes and i can tell were connected its almost like i can read his thoughts and he can read mine GOD is GOOD
All right, ok, I’ll tell you, same here, in 1979, my boss sold the shop and I had to move back to Santa Rosa, to stay with my Mom and look for a job. My little sister helped me find one, night shift, and it didn’t take long, Brian found out I just got hired, and UT was short and sweet, the ” connection, into the eyes. And that was it, a few dates, and wham bam, thank you maam’. I was 30, and he was still 20. His Mom was the only one concerned, we weren’t. I felt the feeling that, I could crawl inside him and become part if him, no other feeling like THAT, had ever been experienced, by either myself or Brian. 21 years, we were married, had our daughter, 9 years into our marriage, but, unfortunately, Bri got all fat and happy, and ignored me, so, I answered the door one day, it was for Him, “Bri, there’s someone @ the door for you,” it was divorce papers. Poor thing. I still remember the look on his face. But, he was too fat for sex or much else anymore, just shook my head, why am I bothering with this. The entire feeling I had had , @the beginning, when I first met him, was gone. That’s my story.
This is a real connection process..3yrs & 11 mo.. and this man and I still stare…smiling!! No words.. thoughts connecting…you feel a deep energy, butterflies..heart racing…. it’s like a drug
Dont just start staring into someones eyes like this without them knowing or they’re going to be real creeped out!!!!!!!
someone should show this to the Donald and Melania lol
Your projecting !! your brain lacks content
Don’t you have to actually like the person first? Like do you think anyone can do this at all and they’ll jsut fall i love?
I agree with you. If I dont like the guy or his eyes, I would avoid eye contact as much as possible
this makes total sense!!! read the questions they asked and its basically just you getting to know the other person while lookin n their eyes. im trying it on my next date lol
This short blog piece doesn’t really explain Arthur Aron’s work. His original intent was to find a way for people to quickly fall in love so that he would have easier access to test subjects for his main work. He developed the process that the NTY article refers to as the 36 Questions that Lead to Love. The questions as well as the entire activity is very specifically designed. Partners alternate reading the question and both answer. They eventually get much more personal, but along the way there are questions intended to force the pair to see commonalities between them (Name three things you and your partner seem to have in common) and to identify positive traits in the other person. After the questions are finished the pair stare into each other’s eyes for four minutes. At first it is frightening but after the first minute or so you start to really see them and by the 4th minute you sense a deep connection with them and can feel them seeing you as well.
I was on a dating site for a while and one of the women I was chatting with agreed to try this on our first date. It works. Yes, you have to be willing to let it work and all that, but 6 months later we have a wonderful, strong relationship filled with the honesty that neither of us had in our previous marriage, and right out of the gate our first dates felt more like spending time with someone we had known for a while, not just a few weeks.