How to Accept Your Ambivalence When it Comes to Motherhood
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If you are reading this, the first thing you need to know is that we completely understand you. It is not a small thing to become a parent, and especially the mother. Why is it harder for mothers? Because mothers are the ones that need to go through all those nine months of fear, pain, joy… Your body will change, your whole life will change… But, what happens when you give birth? You are completely responsible for some weak and cute baby. That baby doesn’t know anything about this world, and you are the one, and of course, your partner, that should teach it what it needs to know.
Are you very ambivalent about motherhood? Please know that you are not alone. You may think that your clock is ticking and that you don’t have enough time, but be real. We live in the 21st century and you can become a mother with all this modern medicine even in your late forties.
Actually, what we wanted to tell you in this article is how there is one thing that can help you a lot. Freeze your eggs! Can you believe how simple that sounds? Many mothers who were ambivalent when it comes to their motherhood did this and it ended all of those questions they were asking themselves each and every day in their heads.
To be honest, you won’t be the only one who asks about your pregnancy and when will it happen. You will have tons of relatives, ”friends”, neighbors and so on who will be very interested to know if you are ready to become a mother.
And you know what, this is your life. This is your body. Do as you want to do. Don’t follow some blind rules which tell you to do this or that. If you decide to become a mother someday, you will be able to do it! If you are worried that your eggs wouldn’t have the same quality as they have in the 20s and 30s, then freeze them.
Overall, as you can see. It is a battle in your head. But, be sure that you can end it easily. 100% of women who froze their eggs claimed how their guilt ended. You don’t need to do what you don’t want to do. You will become a mother someday when you are ready. Or you won’t if you don’t want to play that role.
And remember, that is completely fine.
I wish people could stop asking me this. I’ll have a baby when I’m ready, not when they say so. It’s not something to take lightly.
Motherhood is one of the hardest jobs out there and it is definitely not for everybody. Every woman should think well if it’s for them before they end up making a grave mistake.
This article came in just the right time. I needed this kind of encouragement.
Society asks too much from us not understanding that things are not as easy as it is for them or how the media makes it look. We should decide to be mothers if we want to and whenever we want to. Like the article said, with the scientific developments, we have that assurance to do so when we are in our best situations no matter how old we are.
becoming a mother is a very special thing if you dont want to do it you shouldnt